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How Not To Talk To Your Kids

Original post made by Sanford Forte, Evergreen Park, on Jan 11, 2008

a superb read on the "inverse power of praise"

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Posted by Terry
a resident of Midtown
on Jan 11, 2008 at 3:55 pm

That's a very interesting article. Thanks for sharing it.


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Posted by OhlonePar
a resident of Duveneck/St. Francis
on Jan 12, 2008 at 1:40 am

Sanford,

Thanks for the link. This jibes a lot with what I've seen--adults who feel like failures because the expectations set up when they were kids--that they brilliant, geniuses--are ones impossible to achieve. I'm glad to see that there's been research on it. I can think of a couple of people who might feel a little better if they read it.

I don't think it's praise, per se, that's bad, but praise of something that;s a passive quality instead of a trait over which the child feels he or she has some control.

There's also just a lot to be said for learning to fail and survive another day. School's become such a high-stakes game, particularly when it comes to college admissions.


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