The parents who are busy with their careers and their necessary social activities are convinced that they do not have the time or the necessity (or the social right) to monitor their teenagers' activities. Older siblings and younger "adult" babysitters acting as surrogate parents look the other way as parties take place in multimillion dollar homes while the parents are out of town. When the police arrive to investigate the neighbors' complaints about the noise, the caretakers and the Police are understandably both interested in making minimal waves with all parties involved.
You may believe that this is nothing more than the 21st century version of what the current parents did as teenagers in the 60s. You may think that this is something that can is handled individually in a community of professors, surgeons and CEO parents like Palo Alto. I can assure you however that this is a chronic problem that will only become worse.
I have no interest in exposing any child or adult, and I have learned by experience that there is no recourse available through the Palo Alto Police or the Santa Clara County Courts. The driving factor for them is to "serve" the influential taxpayers and voters. I have no desire for vengeance or recourse. My sole wish is to inform unsuspecting and/or ignorant parents of the risk that they are creating for their children by not paying attention and not speaking to one another about their children’s evening activities. 14 and 15 year olds are still children, despite how they would like to be viewed and treated by their parents.
An article posted on the cvmoms blog site talks about the significance of cyber bullying and the need for Facebook to take social responsibility to prevent it. While I agree with the need for action to prevent this type of behavior, effective deterrents need to stem from the parents. The Internet, and sites like Facebook have both positive and negative side effects. As a parent you need to recognize that your teenage children socialize unattended through the Internet, and that this activity is a catalyst for organizing and promoting deviant behavior. When was the last time you actually viewed your teenager's Facebook page? Of course you do not do that because you want to maintain a trusting relationship with your child.
Making the decision to get involved in your child's life, both online and in the physical world is tough. It is about deciding to be a parent at the potential expense of your friendship with your teenager. Not getting involved can have costly, emotionally damaging, and even deadly consequences. No amount of wealth or Silicon Valley notoriety is worth that risk.