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Palo Alto natives killed in car crash, leaving behind twins

Gregory Ammen and Grace Spiridon were 'high school sweethearts'

by Leah Worthington

The local community is mourning the loss of the parents of twin girls who were killed on Nov. 4 in a major car collision in Redwood City.

Gregory Ammen, 44, and Grace Spiridon, 42, Palo Alto natives and residents of San Carlos, died in a collision involving two cars and seven passengers just before 8 p.m. Ammen and Spiridon were turning left onto Finger Avenue from El Camino Real when they were hit by another car traveling at high speed, according to Gregory's younger brother and the girls' uncle, Michael Ammen.

Their 7-year-old daughters, Madison and Olivia, also in the car during the collision, were transported to Stanford Hospital with minor injuries and were released Sunday. The other car contained a 17-year-old driver and two passengers who suffered non-life-threatening injuries.

The couple lived with their daughters in Eaton Hills, according to Michael Ammen. Gregory Ammen was an audio engineer at Dolby, and Spiridon worked at Google.

The couple, who met in middle school, were "high school sweethearts," a family member said.

Ammen and Spiridon "loved their daughters more than anything in the world," according to Michael Ammen, who said the couple also enjoyed hiking, biking, live music and exploring the outdoors.

"Greg always put Grace and his family first," Michael Ammen said, describing his brother as "a source of kindness and light and love in the world."

The couple, known as 'The G's' by their friends, "were the light of every party they went to," he added. "They were social magnets bringing people from all over (work, school, wherever) together for fun."

Ammen and Spiridon, who grew up in Palo Alto, went to the same middle school, but the romance didn't spark until they were at Palo Alto High School, according to their friends. Ammen graduated from Paly in 1996 and Spiridon was part of the Class of 1998.

Maura McCarthy, a longtime friend of Spiridon's, described a mutual crush and several dates between the two that blossomed after college and grew into a lifelong partnership, admired by friends and family alike.

"They really held each other in such high esteem and regard and it was really nice to see — a model relationship for me," McCarthy said.

She said Grace "really embodied her name" and said her friend used to help her with math homework, share snacks during bike rides to soccer practice and, later, welcome McCarthy into their home for the holidays.

"We shared a pair of Doc Martens in junior high," she said, laughing. "We had the same shoe size and pooled our allowance. I'd get them some days of the week, and she'd get them others."

McCarthy described Spiridon as more of a sister and an integral part of her and many other lives.

"I'm shattered," she said. "It's hard to think about my life — any memory from college, high school, whenever — without Grace in it."

Stephanie King, a friend of more than three decades, described Spiridon as a great baker, a hard worker and the "quintessential mom." From middle school basketball games and their first concerts as teenagers to birthday mixtapes and mother-daughter dinners, she recalled decades of shared memories with Spiridon, whom she said was well-loved and a beloved friend to all who knew her.

She said Ammen and Spiridon were the type to go above and beyond for each other and their daughters, planning camping trips and elaborate surprise birthdays.

"The fact that they were taken away like this is heartbreaking," she said. "This is just such a horrible tragedy, and you just feel for Grace and Greg's parents who have lost their children. And for the girls who are growing up without their parents."

King said taking care of the girls had become a driving motivation for friends and family alike.

"I want them to have as many opportunities as possible," she said. "These girls should never want for anything because they had their parents taken away from them."

A GoFundMe organized by Spiridon's sister, Liza Spiridon, has already raised more than $391,000 to support the twin daughters.

"The world lost two beautiful souls, and leaves two amazing girls without parents," Liza Spiridon wrote in the fundraiser. "We would like to honor them by setting up resources for the care of their wonderful 7-year-old girls."

Michael Ammen, who has two kids of his own, said he was "overwhelmed by the outpouring of support from Greg and Grace's numerous friends and the community as well." He said they're "taking it one day at a time" but are grateful to their friends and family, including Ammen's and Spiridon's parents who live in the area.

"There is an incredibly strong support structure in place for the girls," he said.

Redwood City Mayor Giselle Hale and Police Chief Dan Mulholland released a joint statement Monday afternoon.

"On behalf of the Redwood City City Council, we extend our deepest sympathies to the two young children who tragically lost their parents," Hale said in the statement. "Grief and stress counseling have been made available to students and families, and to first responders who provided emergency assistance at the scene."

"This remains a very active, ongoing investigation and more information will be released as soon as it is available," Mulholland said. "There are no words to express the magnitude of this loss. We are all mourning this tragedy together."

The couple is survived by Ammen's parents, Chris and Adrienne Ammen; brother, Mike Ammen; Spiridon's mother, Nana Spiridon; sister, Liza Spiridon; and many other friends and family members.

Email Lead Reporter Leah Worthington at [email protected]


Posted by dontliveinCA
a resident of another community
on Nov 8, 2022 at 10:21 am

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Such a sad tragedy.......wonder who was at fault in causing this accident?

Posted by vmshadle
a resident of Meadow Park
on Nov 8, 2022 at 11:33 am

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dontliveinCA, authorities are investigating whether the collision occurred from street racing:

Web Link

I know from my own experience that it can be tricky to judge the speed of oncoming street racers. I was nearly hit making a right turn on red in Mountain View during the day because the cars were initially so far away and so I began my turn. Since they were traveling well above the speed limit, however, I naturally had to abort my turn and put up with their contemptuous faces and upraised middle fingers.

Judging speed is even more difficult at night.

If the seventeen-year-old driver is indeed found guilty of killing two parents and two seven-year-old orphans, he and his two younger passengers will rightfully spend the rest of their lives repaying the rest of society for their horrible decision and lack of impulse control.

Posted by vmshadle
a resident of Meadow Park
on Nov 8, 2022 at 11:43 am

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Whoops, sorry, CREATING two seven-year-old orphans.

Posted by Consider Your Options.
a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on Nov 8, 2022 at 12:39 pm

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Terrible tragedy. My heart aches for these children whose lives have been changed forever and the family and friends of the victims. May you find comfort in your grief and loss.

Cars can kill and maim other people. Our choices on the road matter. A moment of carelessness can change your life. Turn off your phone. Turn your attention to responsible, legal, attentive behavior on the road. Our choices can save lives or put them at risk. We need roads that are engineered to control bad behavior, rather than invite bad behavior. (Caltrans, are you listening?) Let's please take care of each other every time we use the road.

Posted by jhskrh
a resident of Community Center
on Nov 8, 2022 at 7:57 pm

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Nothing I can say here, it is just so tragic, such good people with a future ahead of them have their lives taken in a flash, and their little girls have to endure such a loss. So traumatic, so sad.

Posted by Sequoia
a resident of another community
on Nov 9, 2022 at 10:08 am

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This is literally my worst fear when driving on El Camino. I want to point out that while inattentive and irresponsible driving does cause incidents such as this, El Camino is a road with so many unprotected left turns across multiple lanes, and its terrible design contributes to the occurrence of such accidents, including this one. When I’m driving home in San Mateo, I would have to take an unprotected left turn onto my block, but I’m so scared of something like this happening that I instead take a right one block earlier, and I circle the block and drive safely through the light when it’s green. Those extra two minutes I take to arrive home safely are worth my life every time. The cities across the South Bay and Peninsula need to redesign El Camino to not have horrible unprotected left turns to prevent accidents and tragedies like this one from ever happening.

Posted by KJH
a resident of Stanford
on Nov 9, 2022 at 1:20 pm

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I am sobbing over this terrible tragedy.

Posted by Screeedek
a resident of Stanford
on Nov 10, 2022 at 12:58 pm

Screeedek is a registered user.

The drivers of the "race cars", because of their ages, will most certainly walk away with slaps on the wrist. And street racing will continue to be a problem.

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