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News - May 22, 2020

Having lost her son, a Palo Alto mother now scatters messages of hope

Painted rocks, left for others to find, raise awareness of mental health

by Elena Kadvany

She carries the rocks with her everywhere she goes and leaves them for others to find. At the Angel of Grief statue at Stanford University. At high school campuses. On the beach in Carmel. Outside her son's favorite restaurants.

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Posted by Wowzers
a resident of College Terrace
on May 22, 2020 at 8:39 am

What a great story about a compassionate mother. Her son’s spirit is being spread all over the world.

Posted by Perception Is One's Reality
a resident of Stanford
on May 22, 2020 at 8:39 am

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Posted by NanaDi
a resident of Midtown
on May 22, 2020 at 10:34 am

Losing a child to suicide has to be one of Life's most bitter experiences. Brava to this Mother for using her grief and time to inspire others.

Posted by Stanford Sue
a resident of Stanford
on May 22, 2020 at 11:07 am

Thank you, Jennifer, for doing something so positive and loving with your painted rock project and for being a resource for many others in need.

Posted by YSK
a resident of Crescent Park
on May 22, 2020 at 1:51 pm

What Jennifer is doing is beautiful. I'm not sure if I could be that strong.

As to the mental health system… it's a mess. Especially now with people locked in. Suicide prevention lines are overwhelmed. And, once you get past that initial call, unless you have health insurance you will not be seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist. If you have medi-cal you can see somebody once a month. Sometimes you'll be sent to a social worker and while I understand they can do good work; for people with more serious issues that need a psychologist or psychiatrist, that help is simply not there. It's kind of interesting because the very wealthy always donate to children's this and children's that, medical that deals with sickness within the body. They don't realize how bad the mental health system in this county, and all over the state, really is. Donating money to help the mental health system also helps children because whether they are the patient or the child of a patient, at least there is someone getting help.

I remember being a victim of extreme domestic violence and with the exception of being able to go to the shelter for group counseling, there is nobody to see. When you go to victim witness, no money is ever there. They give you a list of mental health professionals to call and every single one will turn you away. Same thing happened when I witnessed someone commit suicide by train. The sheriff's department gave me a list of people come again mental health professionals, in case I needed to talk to somebody. I called every name on the list. Just like I did when I was going through extreme domestic violence. Nobody will see you. In fact they will actually take the time to tell you that the state hasn't paid them in years and doesn't pay them enough.

Mental help requests right now is at an all time high because of the pandemic. People need help. A lot of people lost their insurance ance and jobs so they've been added to the rest of us who can't afford to get it. I hope some of these big companies will start donating or creating a foundation to be actually able to help somebody get help beyond 1 to 3 visits.

Posted by H
a resident of Gunn High School
on May 22, 2020 at 5:45 pm

Turner's work is very impressive. I can feel how she feels when she paints carefully on each stone. Someone must have had the courage to live the world again with her stone message. I applaud her for this meaningful work.

Posted by Loretta
a resident of Greenmeadow
on May 23, 2020 at 12:26 pm

What a lovely tribute to her son’s memory.
Today, all of us need messages of love and hope, so her art is truly a gift.

Posted by Anne Marie
a resident of Palo Verde
on Jun 11, 2020 at 6:40 pm

Love you Jennifer. Thank you for being so brave and for telling your story so many times to so many people. I have learned so much from you and I know so many others have too.

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