Wojcicki, known as "Woj" among her students at Paly, said people kept asking her what she did to raise such successful children, so she decided to write a book about it.
"I've spent a lifetime collecting this information, and I thought I would make it easy and share it with everyone," she said.
The key to raising happy and successful children, she explains in the book, is a method she developed called TRICK, an acronym for trust, respect, independence, collaboration and kindness. The lessons are simple, but the results are radical.
Wojcicki will talk about her book at Palo Alto High at 7 p.m., Wednesday, May 22, during a special event co-hosted by Books Inc. and the school.
Wojcicki's methods are the opposite of helicopter parenting, which she said has become epidemic.
"Stress levels are going up, not down," she said. "Parents need to relax. Their kids are much more capable and sensible than they think. They are going to be OK. The key is trust ... trusting your child. When you trust your child, they feel good about themselves and they trust themselves."
Wojcicki said she doesn't want to discourage parents from arranging afterschool activities but suggests cutting back on their number.
A lot of those kids can hardly do anything on their own because they are so pre-programmed, she said.
She advises parents to let their children lead, something she did with her own children from an early age, and emphasizes the importance of eliciting curiosity in children by encouraging them to ask the right questions.
"I didn't buy my kids all those toys that did things for you. I gave them a lot of freedom to come up with their own idea of what to play," she said. "My kids were busy doing things like using blankets from the closet to make forts. They didn't have any Barbie dolls, but they had a lot of stuffed animals, and their stuffed animals always had adventures. The house was sort of a mess, sorry to say, but you know, they were having fun coming up with ideas."
Wojcicki said that when parents support curiosity, what they're really developing is a child's imagination.
Wojcicki's three daughters attribute much of their ability to thrive during the ups and downs of life to the way their parents raised them.
"We don't remember ever having our ideas or thoughts dismissed because we were children," they wrote in the foreword of the book. "At every age, our parents listened and acted like it was a two-way street for learning. We learned to advocate for ourselves, to listen and to realize when we might be wrong."
"We argued, but we didn't fight," Anne added.
Wojcicki said the impetus for raising her children to be independent thinkers happened when she was 10. Her 16-month-old brother, David, was playing on the kitchen floor and came across a bottle of aspirin that he thought was a toy. He ended up swallowing dozens of pills. Her mother immediately called the doctor, who told her to put him to bed and check him in a few hours. Her mother did exactly what she was told, but David got worse. Her mother, a poor Russian immigrant, drove him to hospital after hospital but was turned away, and David died before he could be treated.
"My mom was unsure of herself and didn't trust her instincts," Wojcicki said. "I decided not to trust people with long titles and began to ask 'why' and challenge the system. ... This made me an independent thinker."
Wojcicki said never pushed her children but showed them how to make their own choices.
"I couldn't control what happened to them in life, but I could give them this tool to think no matter what happens to them in life, and that's all I wanted to do. I didn't want to have a repeat of what my mother suffered because she never recovered from that tragedy."
Tickets for the May 22 event are $35 and include a copy of "How to Raise Successful People." A portion of all ticket sales benefits Paly. More information is available at booksinc.net.
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