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Fuki Sushi owner, a Palo Alto native, subjected to racial-hate tirade

Despite a harrowing encounter, Lumi Gardner hopes people will 'treat others with kindness'

An incident in which a customer at Fuki Sushi in Palo Alto yelled at and told the owner, an American citizen, to "Go back to your country" has been reported to the Palo Alto police. Courtesy Fuki Sushi.

For three generations, Lumi Gardner's family has operated their popular Fuki Sushi restaurant on El Camino Real in Palo Alto. Last Sunday, the native Palo Altan experienced a tirade of racial hatred she never imagined would happen in her community, she said.

A customer became enraged when a server said the restaurant wasn't accepting cash due to the pandemic. He began shrieking at the server, a petite woman, just 5 feet 2 inches tall, who has worked there for more than 30 years, Gardner told Palo Alto Online. Gardner told her employee that she would step in.

"This is un-American! It's illegal for you to not accept cash," he shouted repeatedly, Gardner wrote in a Facebook post, describing the incident.

"I said I would happily accept cash, simply because I wanted to avoid a possibly dangerous situation. He proceeded to scream back at me 'I don't understand you (through your mask). You are un-American! Where were you even born? Did you even go to school here? You are not American! Go back to your country! You don't belong here! We don't want you here!'"

"I'm like, 'What?!' I don't want to justify that question with an answer," said Gardner, who is of Japanese descent. "To have somebody say that to you is one thing; to have somebody scream at you is something else."

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The man, who was in his 50s, attempted to leave without paying. He returned, ranting and screaming, and he claimed he couldn't understand her because of her mask. He threatened to sue her for running an illegal business, she said.

Lumi Gardner. Embarcadero Media file photo from 2012.

"I tried to record the entire ordeal out of fear that he would become violent, but my entire body was shaking from shock, fear and anger. He eventually paid with cash and stormed out of the building," she said.

Gardner followed him out to her parking lot to ensure that he didn't damage her property, she said.

"He proceeded to drive over to me, getting uncomfortably close to me. He took out his phone and recorded me while he continued to yell and scream at me about how he was going to sue me, wisely choosing to not express his racist beliefs while on camera," she wrote in her post.

"It was an experience to say the least," Gardner told Palo Alto Online on Friday night. "It's still going on. I got a threatening call last night," she said.

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Gardner's story came to light after Menlo Park City Council member Ray Mueller posted her comments about the incident on his Facebook page. After hearing about the situation from a constituent who was eating at Fuki Sushi and witnessed the abusive tirade, he contacted Palo Alto Vice Mayor Pat Burt. Mueller and Burt went to the restaurant to express support for Gardner, Burt said by phone on Friday. He and Mueller worked to make Gardner, who was still in shock over the incident, feel supported and validated, he said.

"Fuki Sushi is a third-generation restaurant. It's a treasured institution," he said.

Burt said he contacted Palo Alto Mayor Tom DuBois and City Manager Ed Shikada, and Shikada brought Police Chief Bob Jonsen into the loop. Palo Alto Police spokesperson Con Maloney said on Friday that the department is investigating the incident, but he could not comment further.

Burt said he wants to do something about addressing this incident and others like it through an event that would potentially involve East Palo Alto, Menlo Park and Palo Alto. He would like the event to support the three communities in an affirming way rather than being reactive.

"Here's what we are as a community, and if there are outliers, we're going to stand up to them," he said.

"We need to keep standing up. This isn't the community we know. It's not a reflection of our community, but sadly, it's a reflection of our time," he said.

For Gardner, the experience was angering as opposed to humiliating. She attended Fairmeadow Elementary School, which she said was "pretty diverse." The family moved to Los Altos and she went to Los Altos High School. She's been working at her parents' restaurant since she was 13 years old. This area and Fuki Sushi are what she has always known and loved.

"I feel I chose to raise my family here and my children here. Where we live, it's unique and it's special. I wouldn't want to live anywhere else. Every day I come in here and I do my best to take care of people and I do it from my heart. I train our people the same way — that's how you can feel joy every day," she said.

But the pandemic and recent volatile political rhetoric have been stressful and upsetting for many people, she said.

"I just hope people can treat people with kindness. I think it's the only way. I really mean that. I don't want this poison to infect or spread in our community," she said.

Gardner said the man didn't make her feel like an outsider. It makes her mad that anyone would feel entitled to think of treating anyone in that manner.

While the man was berating her in front of her staff and in the parking lot, her busboy was watching. She felt concerned for him and her other staff members — people she said are gentle and kind.

"It breaks my heart that (the customer) would do that to someone else and they would not have the confidence to call that out. Most of my team is Asian and I saw that it really struck them hard. They are raising their children here. I could see they felt the same kind of anger that I felt. Their children are American-born," she said.

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Fuki Sushi owner, a Palo Alto native, subjected to racial-hate tirade

Despite a harrowing encounter, Lumi Gardner hopes people will 'treat others with kindness'

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Uploaded: Sat, Aug 7, 2021, 12:22 am

For three generations, Lumi Gardner's family has operated their popular Fuki Sushi restaurant on El Camino Real in Palo Alto. Last Sunday, the native Palo Altan experienced a tirade of racial hatred she never imagined would happen in her community, she said.

A customer became enraged when a server said the restaurant wasn't accepting cash due to the pandemic. He began shrieking at the server, a petite woman, just 5 feet 2 inches tall, who has worked there for more than 30 years, Gardner told Palo Alto Online. Gardner told her employee that she would step in.

"This is un-American! It's illegal for you to not accept cash," he shouted repeatedly, Gardner wrote in a Facebook post, describing the incident.

"I said I would happily accept cash, simply because I wanted to avoid a possibly dangerous situation. He proceeded to scream back at me 'I don't understand you (through your mask). You are un-American! Where were you even born? Did you even go to school here? You are not American! Go back to your country! You don't belong here! We don't want you here!'"

"I'm like, 'What?!' I don't want to justify that question with an answer," said Gardner, who is of Japanese descent. "To have somebody say that to you is one thing; to have somebody scream at you is something else."

The man, who was in his 50s, attempted to leave without paying. He returned, ranting and screaming, and he claimed he couldn't understand her because of her mask. He threatened to sue her for running an illegal business, she said.

"I tried to record the entire ordeal out of fear that he would become violent, but my entire body was shaking from shock, fear and anger. He eventually paid with cash and stormed out of the building," she said.

Gardner followed him out to her parking lot to ensure that he didn't damage her property, she said.

"He proceeded to drive over to me, getting uncomfortably close to me. He took out his phone and recorded me while he continued to yell and scream at me about how he was going to sue me, wisely choosing to not express his racist beliefs while on camera," she wrote in her post.

"It was an experience to say the least," Gardner told Palo Alto Online on Friday night. "It's still going on. I got a threatening call last night," she said.

Gardner's story came to light after Menlo Park City Council member Ray Mueller posted her comments about the incident on his Facebook page. After hearing about the situation from a constituent who was eating at Fuki Sushi and witnessed the abusive tirade, he contacted Palo Alto Vice Mayor Pat Burt. Mueller and Burt went to the restaurant to express support for Gardner, Burt said by phone on Friday. He and Mueller worked to make Gardner, who was still in shock over the incident, feel supported and validated, he said.

"Fuki Sushi is a third-generation restaurant. It's a treasured institution," he said.

Burt said he contacted Palo Alto Mayor Tom DuBois and City Manager Ed Shikada, and Shikada brought Police Chief Bob Jonsen into the loop. Palo Alto Police spokesperson Con Maloney said on Friday that the department is investigating the incident, but he could not comment further.

Burt said he wants to do something about addressing this incident and others like it through an event that would potentially involve East Palo Alto, Menlo Park and Palo Alto. He would like the event to support the three communities in an affirming way rather than being reactive.

"Here's what we are as a community, and if there are outliers, we're going to stand up to them," he said.

"We need to keep standing up. This isn't the community we know. It's not a reflection of our community, but sadly, it's a reflection of our time," he said.

For Gardner, the experience was angering as opposed to humiliating. She attended Fairmeadow Elementary School, which she said was "pretty diverse." The family moved to Los Altos and she went to Los Altos High School. She's been working at her parents' restaurant since she was 13 years old. This area and Fuki Sushi are what she has always known and loved.

"I feel I chose to raise my family here and my children here. Where we live, it's unique and it's special. I wouldn't want to live anywhere else. Every day I come in here and I do my best to take care of people and I do it from my heart. I train our people the same way — that's how you can feel joy every day," she said.

But the pandemic and recent volatile political rhetoric have been stressful and upsetting for many people, she said.

"I just hope people can treat people with kindness. I think it's the only way. I really mean that. I don't want this poison to infect or spread in our community," she said.

Gardner said the man didn't make her feel like an outsider. It makes her mad that anyone would feel entitled to think of treating anyone in that manner.

While the man was berating her in front of her staff and in the parking lot, her busboy was watching. She felt concerned for him and her other staff members — people she said are gentle and kind.

"It breaks my heart that (the customer) would do that to someone else and they would not have the confidence to call that out. Most of my team is Asian and I saw that it really struck them hard. They are raising their children here. I could see they felt the same kind of anger that I felt. Their children are American-born," she said.

Comments

Jason Morimoto
Registered user
Stanford
on Aug 7, 2021 at 7:04 am
Jason Morimoto, Stanford
Registered user
on Aug 7, 2021 at 7:04 am

An unfortunate incident and one most certainly not reflective of Palo Alto...hopefully.

Wondering...(1) if the customer truly felt this way about Asians in America, why go to an Asian restaurant to dine, and (2) was there a sign posted in front citing that due to the coronavirus, only credit cards would be accepted?

Some people (regardless of their color) are silent racists and the ongoing encumbrances of the pandemic have left many with an extremely short fuse.

Still no excuse to take it out on others as we are all in this pandemic together and enduring the same inconveniences and restrictions.

As an Asian American whose family has been in America for four generations, none of this comes as a surprise as many non-Asians cannot tell the difference between Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Southeast Asian, and Filipino people.

In other words, 'they all look the same'.

The global pandemic has brought out the worst in people and until everyday life returns to some semblance of the past, these incidents will continue and some may eventually turn violent as we have witnessed in various media accounts.

As my late grandfather once conveyed to me upon reflection of being incarcerated in an internment camp during World War II..."Many white people simply tolerate Japanese-Americans but they will never be fully accepted as true American citizens due to an inherent racism that goes back prior to the war."

And this pervasive mentality of hatred and/or contempt towards any person of color is an ongoing trademark of a white America.

As Bob Dylan once wrote in Positively 4th Street, "Why don't you just come out once and scream it?"

And the irate white customer at Fuki Sushi chose to do so.


felix
Registered user
Barron Park
on Aug 7, 2021 at 7:05 am
felix, Barron Park
Registered user
on Aug 7, 2021 at 7:05 am

Lumi and staff - I am so sorry this guy spewed his racist hate at you.

It is worrisome that after the initial incident, you have been threatened.

I know Fuki Sushi well. It is an island of a calm with a gracious staff and is widely known as having the best Japanese food in town.

We can show support for Lumi and staff by making a to point go there. When we do, make sure to express support. One enraged racist must not get to make the biggest impression.


Efren Morales
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another community
on Aug 7, 2021 at 7:50 am
Efren Morales, another community
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on Aug 7, 2021 at 7:50 am
David Chang
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Los Altos
on Aug 7, 2021 at 8:14 am
David Chang, Los Altos
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on Aug 7, 2021 at 8:14 am
Amber Thompson
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Embarcadero Oaks/Leland
on Aug 7, 2021 at 8:33 am
Amber Thompson, Embarcadero Oaks/Leland
Registered user
on Aug 7, 2021 at 8:33 am
Citizen
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Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on Aug 7, 2021 at 8:55 am
Citizen, Another Palo Alto neighborhood
Registered user
on Aug 7, 2021 at 8:55 am

Ms Gardner and staff
WE (Palo Altans) love you , your restaurant, your part in our community, your many contributions to our community. We most definitely DO want you here.

What a terrible thing to go through. Thanks for speaking up.


vmshadle
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Meadow Park
on Aug 7, 2021 at 9:02 am
vmshadle, Meadow Park
Registered user
on Aug 7, 2021 at 9:02 am

I am so sorry that this happened to you all. Appalling and despicable. Fuki Sushi has always been one of the pillars of our restaurant scene, and Palo Alto is fortunate to have you. I hope this racist assailant is identified and somehow made to account for his disgusting actions. Sending kindness and peace.


Rick Billings
Registered user
Crescent Park
on Aug 7, 2021 at 9:54 am
Rick Billings, Crescent Park
Registered user
on Aug 7, 2021 at 9:54 am

This was most likely an isolated incident and fortunately it does not occur on a regular basis.

And while it was very unbecoming to berate a proprietor with racist-laced overtones, the customer did finally cooperate by paying his tab with the requisite cash.

The coronavirus has taken a psychological toll on everyone and some people have difficulty containing their anger and frustration.

In all fairness, credit cards provide a certain degree of convenience as few people carry excessive amounts of cash these days.

Nevertheless, the angry customer should have refrained from his public outburst and kept his thoughts private.


felix
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Barron Park
on Aug 7, 2021 at 10:45 am
felix, Barron Park
Registered user
on Aug 7, 2021 at 10:45 am

Rick - read the article again. I think you got some facts revered regarding accepted payment. The restaurant takes credit cards, not cash.

And this wasn’t “overtones”, this was explicit expressed racism.



Local Resident
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Community Center
on Aug 7, 2021 at 10:54 am
Local Resident, Community Center
Registered user
on Aug 7, 2021 at 10:54 am

Didn't someone get his license plate number? Sounds like a hate crime to me.


Miriam Kornicki
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Menlo Park
on Aug 7, 2021 at 11:09 am
Miriam Kornicki, Menlo Park
Registered user
on Aug 7, 2021 at 11:09 am

It was just a simple misunderstanding over payment method, perhaps fueled by the inconvenience (and subsequent anger) of having to use a credit card in lieu of cash.

Some people prefer to pay in cash and given that businesses must pay a % to the card issuer following any transaction, a cash payment should be a welcome means of exchange.

We always pay cash when dining out regardless of the dinner tab and believe me, sometimes it involves a lot of cash (including a sizeable tip).

This incident probably resulted in the food servers and bussers getting a minimal or no tip and hopefully the owner compensated for it in some way.


John B. Sails
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Midtown
on Aug 7, 2021 at 11:12 am
John B. Sails, Midtown
Registered user
on Aug 7, 2021 at 11:12 am
Miriam Kornicki
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Menlo Park
on Aug 7, 2021 at 11:21 am
Miriam Kornicki, Menlo Park
Registered user
on Aug 7, 2021 at 11:21 am

@ John B. Sails

Since the angry customer eventually had to pay via credit card, the restaurant would have his name on the transaction receipt.

The question is...would the proprietor be willing to divulge this information in lieu of the alleged phone threats?

I have known many fine Japanese-Americans in my lifetime and most do not wish to stir-up or rock the boat.

This is part of their culture...to suffer & endure despite various hardships without complaining or racing a ruckus.

Unlike countless other Americans, they epitomize our most quiet and respectable U.S. citizens.


Carlos
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Green Acres
on Aug 7, 2021 at 12:06 pm
Carlos, Green Acres
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on Aug 7, 2021 at 12:06 pm
Jennifer
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another community
on Aug 7, 2021 at 12:21 pm
Jennifer, another community
Registered user
on Aug 7, 2021 at 12:21 pm

I'm sorry this happened, but he eventually paid cash and stormed out of the building. With an angry, abusive man this situation could've been worse. I'm glad it didn't get physical. Verbal abuse is bad enough.


Gertrude Wilkins
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Community Center
on Aug 7, 2021 at 3:21 pm
Gertrude Wilkins, Community Center
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on Aug 7, 2021 at 3:21 pm
YentaThe Renter
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College Terrace
on Aug 7, 2021 at 3:33 pm
YentaThe Renter, College Terrace
Registered user
on Aug 7, 2021 at 3:33 pm

He should apologize. Publicly. And perhaps consider a donation to…”All lives Matter,” and or do service, to any organization that may offer him some retiring of his faulty neural networks.


John
Adobe-Meadow
on Aug 7, 2021 at 4:12 pm
John, Adobe-Meadow
on Aug 7, 2021 at 4:12 pm
Reggie Williams
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East Palo Alto
on Aug 7, 2021 at 4:29 pm
Reggie Williams, East Palo Alto
Registered user
on Aug 7, 2021 at 4:29 pm
John
Adobe-Meadow
on Aug 7, 2021 at 4:52 pm
John, Adobe-Meadow
on Aug 7, 2021 at 4:52 pm

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Anonymous
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Duveneck/St. Francis
on Aug 7, 2021 at 8:29 pm
Anonymous, Duveneck/St. Francis
Registered user
on Aug 7, 2021 at 8:29 pm

Horrible customer. Also a racist. Terrible. Very sorry to learn someone treated this longstanding business in this appalling way.

By the way, as an “Anglo,” (!?), a term I never heard prior to moving to California, I hasten to assure you I’ve been told by two Asians “you all look alike” (to repeat what another poster above ^ said they had been told — as a person of Asian heritage).

“Whites” vary tremendously in culture, nature, food, some quasi-stereotypical characteristics - by country/ies of heritage - and are indeed individuals and should not be stereotyped, either.


PA Community Advocate
Registered user
Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on Aug 7, 2021 at 11:46 pm
PA Community Advocate, Another Palo Alto neighborhood
Registered user
on Aug 7, 2021 at 11:46 pm

Dear Gardner family,

Thank you for your many contributions to our great community. Fuki Sushi is a true Palo Alto legend.

This city and country is yours. Please don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise.


felix
Registered user
Barron Park
on Aug 8, 2021 at 5:28 am
felix, Barron Park
Registered user
on Aug 8, 2021 at 5:28 am

Do people not read the article before commenting?
-The restaurant did take this man’s CASH payment though it’s policy is cards only.

There’s no excuse for his rage in a restaurant, yelling at women, slinging racist slurs at them. I’m appalled by the apologists here for his behavior.


AnonymousPerson
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another community
on Aug 8, 2021 at 5:51 am
AnonymousPerson, another community
Registered user
on Aug 8, 2021 at 5:51 am

This guy had an outburst because he was told he couldn't pay cash. While it was absolutely inappropriate, things like this happen sometimes. Once in a while people get angry and throw a fit. Many of us done something similar at one point while over the phone with a customer service agent or in person when we were upset about what we perceived was poor or unfair customer service. Maybe this customer had a bad day or week or was dealing with something difficult in his life. Maybe he has mental health issues.

This customer absolutely should have refrained from using racist language. But people do say mean and hateful things when they are upset, even when they don't necessarily mean it. They will call you out for whatever they can think of at the moment because they are filled with anger and rage. It otherwise wouldn't have been said. People these days are also frustrated with the pandemic, wearing masks, all of the restrictions. That takes a toll and I have read more stories about people lashing out as a result.

Sorry to the restaurant about this experience and witnessing a customer having a temper tantrum. I would not take it personally. Let it go and move on.


Barry Podesta
Registered user
Barron Park
on Aug 8, 2021 at 6:57 am
Barry Podesta, Barron Park
Registered user
on Aug 8, 2021 at 6:57 am

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blah
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another community
on Aug 8, 2021 at 10:38 am
blah, another community
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on Aug 8, 2021 at 10:38 am
Seer
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Greenmeadow
on Aug 8, 2021 at 1:20 pm
Seer, Greenmeadow
Registered user
on Aug 8, 2021 at 1:20 pm

>> " As my late grandfather once conveyed to me upon reflection of being incarcerated in an internment camp during World War II..."Many white people simply tolerate Japanese-Americans but they will never be fully accepted as true American citizens due to an inherent racism that goes back prior to the war."

And this pervasive mentality of hatred and/or contempt towards any person of color is an ongoing trademark of a white America."

This was a terrible incident, but I don't think it is indicative of Palo Alto which is over 30% Asian. So, somehow Asians are more than "tolerated". I get that America emerged as a power in a colonial racist time. The only difference from the rest of the world is that it fostered the rights of the individual first for landed white males but this has been increasingly generalized until it is as close to a meritocracy as humanity probably can get, last I looked, for example, brown Indians are quite above average in wealth and run several of our most powerful corporations.

Meanwhile, by every measure, Asia (and Africa too!) is a much more racist place than the US and the West. The numbers of currently enslaved people in Asia and Africa is still shockingly high. So, I don't buy that "white people" (who I'm not "traditionally" one) are somehow particularly racist. They happened to be average at a time of high power and are now the least racist. That doesn't excuse anything, but it puts the "white" "west" bashing in context.


James Murakai
Registered user
Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on Aug 8, 2021 at 1:46 pm
James Murakai, Another Palo Alto neighborhood
Registered user
on Aug 8, 2021 at 1:46 pm

> "I don't think it is indicative of Palo Alto which is over 30% Asian."

^ The 30% Asian population in Palo Alto (as in today) has increased primarily due to the influx of well-to-do Mandarin professionals and business owners from overseas who can easily afford to purchase $3M+ Palo Alto residencies.

The Asian population in Palo Alto (as in prior) was not as wealthy overall with a general livelihood mixture of dentists, domestic workers, laundry owners, and gardners.

On another note...if Palo Alto is so enlightened and non-racist, why did the PAUSD misconstrue Admiral Yamamoto of the Imperial Japanese Navy with a native-son of Palo Alto who just happened to be Japanese-American AND who was one of the first Nisei 442nd infantrymen (fighting for the United States) to be killed in action...when it came to renaming a middle school?

Now WHO is going to take the responsibility for this oversight?


III
Registered user
Midtown
on Aug 8, 2021 at 1:59 pm
III, Midtown
Registered user
on Aug 8, 2021 at 1:59 pm
Emmett
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Embarcadero Oaks/Leland
on Aug 8, 2021 at 2:48 pm
Emmett, Embarcadero Oaks/Leland
Registered user
on Aug 8, 2021 at 2:48 pm
AnonymousPerson
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another community
on Aug 8, 2021 at 3:16 pm
AnonymousPerson, another community
Registered user
on Aug 8, 2021 at 3:16 pm
Carla
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Downtown North
on Aug 8, 2021 at 3:30 pm
Carla, Downtown North
Registered user
on Aug 8, 2021 at 3:30 pm

This is not an isolated incident, and no one is being too sensitive about this.

Same identical thing happened to me in downtown Palo Alto. Over an argument over wearing face masks last year, an obviously-Russian female had the same reaction and the same vile words said to me: To return to my country!

As an owner of an Italian restaurant with three generations of Spanish/Portughese/Italian-American lineage, it is certainly reeks of racism.

This behaviour is not limited to Asians, or Blacks, or martians. People are both mean when they get mad.


Jennifer
Registered user
another community
on Aug 8, 2021 at 4:03 pm
Jennifer, another community
Registered user
on Aug 8, 2021 at 4:03 pm

I agree that an angry, abusive customer will go with the lowest common denominator to insult. Whatever will cut like a knife will be the weapon of choice. I saw this happening when I worked with the general public in high school and college. This was very hurtful to her, and everybody has their own level of sensitivity.


Reality Bytes
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another community
on Aug 9, 2021 at 8:46 am
Reality Bytes, another community
Registered user
on Aug 9, 2021 at 8:46 am
theAlex
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South of Midtown
on Aug 9, 2021 at 10:41 am
theAlex, South of Midtown
Registered user
on Aug 9, 2021 at 10:41 am

Just want to chime in and say I'm appalled at the apologists posting, too. Maybe they're Russian agents sowing discord.


NanaDi
Registered user
Midtown
on Aug 9, 2021 at 10:42 am
NanaDi, Midtown
Registered user
on Aug 9, 2021 at 10:42 am

I am so sorry that this fine businesswoman was subjected to such vile abuse. While there are many immature people who resort to both verbal and physical abuse when they don't get things "their way" (I was married to one), I suspect this guy is really mentally ill. Not to excuse his ugly behavior, but to remind everyone reading this of the impact on society of letting mental illness go untreated. Seems to me that this person is not fit to mingle freely in society.


valorie25
Registered user
Old Palo Alto
on Aug 9, 2021 at 10:52 am
valorie25, Old Palo Alto
Registered user
on Aug 9, 2021 at 10:52 am

I read all the comments but maybe I missed it. Did no one step in to help? Were there other diners there who could have asked him to calm down? Why do people just "watch" when racism happens? Silence is validation to the racist that they are right. Stop being "sheeple"!


Tom from Midtown
Registered user
Midtown
on Aug 9, 2021 at 11:09 am
Tom from Midtown, Midtown
Registered user
on Aug 9, 2021 at 11:09 am

I write this with the full awareness of the question, "what would I do?", but it saddens me to realize that (apparently) none of the other customers who were in Fuki Sushi at the time thought this racist behavior was unacceptable enough to stand up and, as calmly as possible, tell this man that what he was doing and saying was just not OK. I would bet that several/many of them are loyal Fuki Sushi customers like we are, having gone there for at least 20 years, and I wouldn't be surprised to hear that, after the fact, some regretted not saying anything in the moment. Maybe it would have made a difference, maybe not. But it would have been the right thing to do.


Consider Your Options.
Registered user
Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on Aug 9, 2021 at 11:22 am
Consider Your Options. , Another Palo Alto neighborhood
Registered user
on Aug 9, 2021 at 11:22 am

Ms. Gardner, I don't know you personally, but do frequent your restaurant and am grateful for the wonderful service and delicious meals I have enjoyed there.

I am very sorry you had this terrible experience. That man diminished himself with his awful behavior.


Julie Lythcott-Haims
Registered user
Green Acres
on Aug 9, 2021 at 11:25 am
Julie Lythcott-Haims, Green Acres
Registered user
on Aug 9, 2021 at 11:25 am

Lumi Gardner, I am so so sorry this happened to you. As a Palo Altan of color I stand with you and ask ALL Palo Altans to frequent Fuki Sushi in order to demonstrate that we won't stand for this. We think we're better than this or we say that this is "not Palo Alto?" Y'all, it IS. This stuff happens HERE. So let's not just say we're not racist or that was despicable. Let's not wring our hands. Let's show up, so that Fuki Suski owners staff feel the emotional and financial support of this community.


resident
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Stanford
on Aug 9, 2021 at 11:29 am
resident, Stanford
Registered user
on Aug 9, 2021 at 11:29 am

I am very sad to hear that this happened. I believe that many people are shocked and afraid of what is happening to the country that we love. Trump opened a Pandora's box and made some people feel that it is acceptable to voice their racism and anger. It is not acceptable. We have to stand together and show that this kind of behavior cannot be justified or tolerated.


Mo Revue
Registered user
Stanford
on Aug 9, 2021 at 11:40 am
Mo Revue, Stanford
Registered user
on Aug 9, 2021 at 11:40 am

Hey! What am I missing! A horrible unacceptable racial violent rant just occurred in our community!! This man should be charged. I’m an old white man..and I cannot believe anyone of any race would do this. Is this our new low? Accepting this?? Luckily I retired to the Philippines!


Megan Swezey Fogarty
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Midtown
on Aug 9, 2021 at 12:10 pm
Megan Swezey Fogarty, Midtown
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on Aug 9, 2021 at 12:10 pm

Lumi Gardner, I am so sorry. This is a reminder to be an upstander whenever we witness. I plan to dine with you this week and apologize that you and your colleagues were treated this way. Thank you for being part of our dynamic community and we all can do better. Megan


jhskrh
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Community Center
on Aug 9, 2021 at 12:21 pm
jhskrh, Community Center
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on Aug 9, 2021 at 12:21 pm
Mark
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Palo Verde
on Aug 9, 2021 at 12:24 pm
Mark, Palo Verde
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on Aug 9, 2021 at 12:24 pm

I have know this family as a patron for over 30 years now--the entire family is absolutely a wonderful family that has reached out to my wife and I on a personal level that far exceeds a business person's responsibility . I absolutely adore Lumi and I have watched that young lady turn from a high school student --walking through every 15 minutes--making sure everyone of us was taken care of--to now managing that amazing restaurant for her parents. What a dream come true for a family business. That I should be that lucky to have her as a daughter of ours. She is so rock solid--a mother now herself. I just don't get it--why? Lumi is such a well-spoken intelligent, lovely, woman. Now I have to be Caucasian and have Lumi look at me and I resemble a racist person --because some ignorant fool lowered my entire community's standards by speaking to Lumi (or anyone else btw) that way? I'm sorry Lumi. Ignoramuses like that are in all cultures and races unfortunately--history has shown us that. I'm just so sorry.


Fr0hickey
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Old Palo Alto
on Aug 9, 2021 at 1:33 pm
Fr0hickey, Old Palo Alto
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on Aug 9, 2021 at 1:33 pm
theAlex
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South of Midtown
on Aug 9, 2021 at 1:45 pm
theAlex, South of Midtown
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on Aug 9, 2021 at 1:45 pm

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AnonymousPerson
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another community
on Aug 9, 2021 at 2:45 pm
AnonymousPerson, another community
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on Aug 9, 2021 at 2:45 pm
ALB
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College Terrace
on Aug 9, 2021 at 6:14 pm
ALB, College Terrace
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on Aug 9, 2021 at 6:14 pm

Please see the poignant documentary Silent Sacrifice by Jeff Aiello. Go to: www.pbs.org./video/silent-sacrifice-0marqy/

This important documentary reflects on how Japanese Americans were treated during the war.

Lumi Gardner did not deserve to be treated
in this shameful and horrid manner by the bully who happens to be white.


Carlos
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Green Acres
on Aug 9, 2021 at 7:02 pm
Carlos, Green Acres
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on Aug 9, 2021 at 7:02 pm
karlakk
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Old Palo Alto
on Aug 9, 2021 at 9:05 pm
karlakk, Old Palo Alto
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on Aug 9, 2021 at 9:05 pm

First of all thank you for being a part of the community.


Secondly, I think people are on high alert for threads of racism.

Thirdly, this scenario is the exact same scenario that has several hundred incidents by airline personnel actually inflight. Grocery store clerks and I have witnessed patients yelling at entire physicians offices about how they are un-American and traitors for whatever changes they have had to make to keep everyone safe.

I hope you know that the 99.9 percent of the population love and adore you and this person has some perception/mental health/ possibly substance abuse problems to look at your operation and direct those words and threats.


Sam Taylor
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another community
on Aug 10, 2021 at 10:32 am
Sam Taylor, another community
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on Aug 10, 2021 at 10:32 am

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Green Gables
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Duveneck/St. Francis
on Aug 10, 2021 at 11:44 am
Green Gables, Duveneck/St. Francis
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on Aug 10, 2021 at 11:44 am

What an unfortunate incident. Also, unfortunate is that this happens all too frequently. Too many people living in a crowded area get cranky frequently. Not enough space. Unfortunate no one got a license plate number so that one of Palo Alto's finest could go have a chat with the joker. Happened to me many years ago over a parking space only the guy forgot his credit card so was easily traced.


Bette Layne
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Duveneck/St. Francis
on Aug 10, 2021 at 1:13 pm
Bette Layne, Duveneck/St. Francis
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on Aug 10, 2021 at 1:13 pm
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Embarcadero Oaks/Leland
on Aug 10, 2021 at 1:21 pm
Online Name, Embarcadero Oaks/Leland
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on Aug 10, 2021 at 1:21 pm

We know that the PAPD only charged some jerk with a misdemeanor for repeatedly threatening a PA Asian woman and her family with rape, death threats, etc. They didn't even sentence the jerk to anger management, only a short counseling sting for alcoholism after which his record will be expunged.

I've lived here long enough to have heard enough personal accounts of experiences with the PAPD to remain disgusted. They can't even get it together to update the Crime Blotters even with their outrageous salaries and new community outreach person. What a shame that the budget cutbacks hit the libraries instead of PAPD.


Lisa Mendez
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another community
on Aug 10, 2021 at 5:10 pm
Lisa Mendez, another community
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on Aug 10, 2021 at 5:10 pm
Mark
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Old Palo Alto
on Aug 11, 2021 at 4:29 am
Mark, Old Palo Alto
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on Aug 11, 2021 at 4:29 am

This story is disturbing, but so is that so many posts here had to be removed. How deep does this all go?


Harold Beasley
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Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on Aug 11, 2021 at 7:06 am
Harold Beasley, Another Palo Alto neighborhood
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on Aug 11, 2021 at 7:06 am
Sushi Is Not The Issue
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Palo Alto Hills
on Aug 11, 2021 at 7:35 am
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Soo Kim
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another community
on Aug 11, 2021 at 8:01 am
Soo Kim, another community
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on Aug 11, 2021 at 8:01 am
Emil Del Pilar
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on Aug 11, 2021 at 8:35 am
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on Aug 11, 2021 at 8:35 am

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