'Breaking the silence' on youth mental health

Teens share first-hand struggles in new book

"There is so much I wish someone had told you."

This quote, from an anonymous teenager directed to her future self, is from a new book a group of local teenagers wrote to address their sense that there is a lack of guidance to help young people cope with mental health issues. An unfiltered view of the experiences of local teens, the book aims to help any reader, young or old, better understand mental illness.

Nineteen students from 12 Bay Area high schools who serve on Palo Alto nonprofit Children's Health Council's Teen Wellness Committee came up with the idea for "Just a Thought: Uncensored Narratives of Teen Mental Health," which will be released on Wednesday. They wanted to create a book that would document advice and anecdotes on mental health from both themselves and the broader youth community. The book includes letters written by the committee members and quotes from close to 100 teens who responded to a survey they issued to solicit more stories.

"If we are going to make progress in supporting youth mental health, we need more spaces for unfiltered conversation, as is created in the book, and for people to truly listen," said committee member Nadia Ghaffari, a recent graduate of Los Altos High School and founder of Teenz Talk, a youth mental health nonprofit.

"Just a Thought" is split into four sections, each addressed to a different segment of the community: friends, parents, educators and "me." The sections explore why and why not teens choose to reach out for help, both helpful and unhelpful responses from parents and how conversations around mental health play out at their schools, among other issues.

Throughout the book, powerful quotes are brought to life in colorful illustrations. In one, a girl wears a smiling paper bag over her head next to the text, "#mentalillness feels like I have to wear a mask every day."

In an interview, Gunn High School senior and committee member Madeline Lurie described teenagehood as "ridiculous and emotional," a time when she struggled with rapid change and countless expectations. She's been open about grappling with mental health issues -- in March, she published an article about her experience with obsessive compulsive disorder and anxiety in "Changing the Narrative," a mental-health series in Gunn student newspaper The Oracle -- and hopes the book will help combat stigma around these topics.

"People don't know how to deal with mental health because it is just an awkward topic," she said. "I feel like this is just breaking the silence a little more about stuff that is a little bit uncomfortable and a little bit awkward."

Lurie said the book also helped her empathize with others who have had different experiences with mental illness. "Just a Thought" explains from a personal perspective what panic attacks, anxiety, psychosis, depression and other mental disorders feel like.

One teenager's letter urges teachers to be open to teens who come to them with mental health issues.

"We don't expect you to be experts on what we're going through," the teen wrote. "Be curious and open-minded, and be willing to admit that sometimes you don't know."

Katherine Reeves, a psychiatric mental health nurse practitioner at the Children's Health Council, described the book's value in an introduction.

"We are confronted daily with reasons teens may hide their experiences with mental illness. The comments in this book break that barrier," she wrote. "They are raw, unfiltered, and allow the reader to appreciate both the strengths and gaping holes in the health and education systems responsible for taking care of these kids. Teens tell us in this book, in their own words, how we might help."

The Teen Wellness Committee, which formed in 2016, aims to complete one project each year to address mental-health challenges facing youth. Last year, the committee launched a digital campaign called "Speak Mindfully," which encouraged people to sign a pledge promising to speak carefully when using language related to mental health. "Speak Mindfully" aimed to foster more personal investment in respecting the personal experiences of others, and the book aims to do the same.

Another goal of the book is to empower teens to get involved in mental health advocacy.

"Our vision is that this book will start a proactive movement around including more youth in mental health advocacy and decision-making processes," Ghaffari said.

"Just a Thought" will be released at a free book launch this Wednesday, June 13, from 5:30-7:30 p.m at the Children's Health Council, 650 Clark Way, Palo Alto. The book will be available for purchase there (proceeds will support teen mental health work at the Children's Health Council) and afterwards, online as an e-book.

To register, go to

Any person who is feeling depressed, troubled or suicidal can call 1-800-784-2433 to speak with a crisis counselor. People in Santa Clara County can call 1-855-278-4204. Spanish speakers can call 1-888-628-9454.

People can reach trained counselors at Crisis Text Line by texting 741741.

The link below provides more resources where one can receive help:

Resources: How to help those in crisis


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2 people like this
Posted by Interested
a resident of Adobe-Meadow
on Jun 12, 2018 at 9:00 am

How do we purchase the book? Can you provide a link?

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Posted by taramadhav
a resident of Evergreen Park
on Jun 12, 2018 at 1:30 pm

taramadhav is a registered user.

Hi @Interested,

The book will be online after the book launch on Wednesday - please email Katie Reeves at to request a copy, with the CHC's suggested donation of $25. There will be physical books available at the book launch as well (address in article). Hope this answers your question!

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Posted by Harold A Maio
a resident of another community
on Jun 13, 2018 at 11:27 am

-----combat stigma

The most significant piece of information one can glean from the above?

We have taught this young person to believe there is a stigma to mental health issues.

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Posted by Rob
a resident of Atherton
on Jun 14, 2018 at 5:21 am

It's time to cut down on the homework. Maximum of 1 hour of homework should be allowed. Not a minute over. Kids are just too stressed out these days with the ridiculous amount of school work / homework. It's very unhealthy.

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Posted by creating mental helath
a resident of Charleston Meadows
on Jun 14, 2018 at 8:52 am

Imagine the mental health of those immigrant kids ripped from their parents and stacked and stored in that old Walmart.

They're even being prescribed drugs for their mental health without the knowledge of their parents, and most likely, without any knowledge of their medical history. Think about it - your ten year old being detained, and asked about his medical history?!?!?

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But hey - they get a Trump mural: “Sometimes by losing a battle you find a new way to win the war.”

That won't be a problem, will it? Young kids seeking asylum, being imprisoned, overcrowded, fed drugs, indoctrinated with “Sometimes by losing a battle you find a new way to win the war”....

Nah, no issues coming out of all that, I'm sure.

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