Facebook's (almost) oldest user keeps the conversation polite

Menlo Park woman meets Zuckerberg, tours social network's new campus

At a little over a century in age, Menlo Park resident Florence Detlor is one of Facebook's oldest users. The distinction, which she pays little mind, has earned her a tour of the social-networking company's massive headquarters and a meet-and-greet with the company's billionaire founder, who at 28 years old is 73 years her junior.

"I was very impressed," Detlor said, referring to Mark Zuckerberg. "He was very pleasant and official. Very nice."

Shortly after noon on Aug. 22, Detlor toured the Facebook campus along with a group of officials from Little House in Menlo Park, the Peninsula Volunteers-run senior activity center, of which she is a member. In fact, it was at Little House where the 101-year-old Detlor learned the ropes of the popular social-networking site, and it was through Little House that this trip was organized.

Every month Little House offers interactive Facebook classes for seniors to learn how to use the site, post pictures, add friends and play social games. The lessons are taught by a Facebook employee who volunteers.

Officials from the social-networking giant originally thought Detlor was the oldest Facebook user. But after her visit last week, and the surrounding publicity, the grandson of a 102-year-old woman notified the company of his grandmother's status as Facebook's oldest user, the website reported Thursday.

Detlor's own interest in signing up for Facebook was piqued by her family. She recalled how family members would often talk about using the site, occasionally suggesting that Detlor give it a try.

The idea was not all that far-fetched. While Detlor admits she isn't highly tech-savvy, she is far from computer-illiterate. The centenarian got her first personal computer in 1999 -- around the time Zuckerberg was entering his freshman year of high school.

Detlor's Facebook timeline indicates that she joined Facebook on Aug. 19, 2009. However, she says she has been using the site for only one year. Her first picture post is a shared photo, originally uploaded by her niece on Detlor's 100th birthday.

Detlor was born in Canada and moved to Los Angeles shortly thereafter.

"Not a moment too soon, I believe," she said.

From L.A. she moved north to Menlo Park. She remembers the exact date she first moved into the home she still lives in to this day: Dec. 9, 1955. She loves her "beautiful Menlo Park," she said, even if she doesn't "like the way they run it sometimes."

That's about the most political Detlor gets, at least on Facebook. She said she likes to limit her social wall feed to polite discourse and pleasant small talk.

Scrolling through her feed there are earnest questions, such as, "Is a garage sale a good way to shop?" There are also positive proclamations that also serve as a call to discuss positive experiences had in church: "I heard a thought-provoking sermon this morning. I can work on that all week." An Aug. 5 post from Detlor reads: "Isn't it good that we don't have to face politics on Facebook???"

It may be surprising for the more experienced Facebook user that Detlor is able to avoid politics within Facebook, but the truth is she is fairly discerning when it comes to "friending."

"I just want (the conversation) to be meaningful," she said, "and to give back a message that is meaningful." When she sees posts that are negative, strange or overtly partisan, she has found a simple solution.

"Un-friend!" she exclaimed, from her wheelchair, as she sat in a meeting space deep within the labyrinthine Facebook campus.

According to a Little House employee, the Facebook class is a big hit.

"The ability to be able to connect and reconnect with long-lost friends, engage with them, keep up with their family and kids and just be able to link up with their families" is what makes the course so popular, according to Kwesi Wilson, marketing and communications coordinator.

Wilson said that the class has grown in popularity, largely through to word of mouth, as Little House members tell their peers about how much they have enjoyed using the site.

"They pick it up quickly," he said. "It's really easy to use. And as soon as they start clicking and get in there, start uploading pictures, they're in."

Wilson pointed to a recent USA Today article featuring Detlor that explores the use of social networks by senior citizens. That article, "Facebook 101: Seniors learn to use the social network," cites a recent Pew study that indicates all social network users older than 50 use the technology predominantly to stay in touch with family.

Wilson said he uses it for -- staying up to speed with his family living in Ghana.

The article also cites another recent Pew study that found 33 percent of senior citizens on the Web used social-media sites in 2011. That's up from 13 percent just two years prior.

Loneliness may be a significant driver behind this uptick in social media use by the elderly, Wilson speculated.

"What (the seniors) find, is that they're able to keep in touch with their children, their friends, so (they) virtually are keeping in touch with everyone," he said.

Detlor said her friends would benefit from the contact they could experience through Facebook but also noted that many of her friends have passed away.

This fact may shed some light on why she isn't all that shy about engaging with complete strangers online -- so long as they remain polite, of course.

This story has been updated from an earlier version.

Editor's note: Before Florence Detlor's visit to Facebook, she had about 40 friends on her page. After the visit, she had more than 3,000.


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Posted by Enough!
a resident of Charleston Gardens
on Aug 29, 2012 at 10:53 am

Go granny go!!!! My mom is 80 and she's on FB too....has 53 friends even! Pretty cool! Drives me nuts when younger people are shocked that older people are in the internet and social media. Remember, most of the guys most successful in this business are/were in their 50's!

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Posted by KP
a resident of South of Midtown
on Aug 29, 2012 at 11:09 am

My 91 year old grandmother is a FB user, but always says she doesn't have time to "JUST SIT AT THE COMPUTER ON HER BUTT" !! LOL!
She would rather be in her garden working or on some random trip, like this December to what used to be Burma, and is now, Myanamar (sp) for 3+ weeks! She takes her iPad with her to post some pix!
Not your ordinary Granny!

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Posted by a suggestion
a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on Aug 29, 2012 at 12:15 pm

It would be nice if someone (from Facebook) would take her to have picture taken in front of big Facebook sign at the end of Willow Rd..

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Posted by Phil
a resident of Fairmeadow
on Aug 29, 2012 at 10:28 pm

Depending on how one defines "user," my father's cousin might qualify and even be slightly older. She'll be 102 next month (13 Sept), but rarely gets on FB by herself anymore (her niece or grand-nephew usually logon with her). But you can check out her page by searching for Mildred Ritter--I suppose depending on her privacy settings. Otherwise Mildred is active and sharp and only slowing down a bit (she went to Scotland last year but decided not to go this year, decided to give up driving when she turned 100).

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