Holiday Spirit

Kristen Lee, a Fletcher Middle School librarian and faculty adviser to Fletcher's first-ever Gender Sexuality Alliance (GSA) club, leads students during a club meeting on Nov. 20. Lee credits the nonprofit Outlet program, which provides mental health and other services to LGBTQ youth, for guiding her and other staff in supporting LGBTQ students. Photo by Sammy Dallal.

Posted November 22, 2019

A go-to resource for supporting LGBTQ youth
Outlet helps local educators, families raise LGBTQ kids

by Elena Kadvany

Several years ago, when a transgender student wanted to transition from female to male at Fletcher Middle School in Palo Alto, librarian Kristen Lee reached out to Outlet, which provides services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer and questioning (LGBTQ) youth, to lead a training for the entire staff.

Later, when a student approached Lee to start the school's first-ever Gender Sexuality Alliance (GSA) club, her first call for guidance was to Outlet.

When the school administrators started hearing reports of students being harassed while using gender-neutral bathrooms on campus, Lee sought Outlet's advice on how to address it.

And when a series of posters appeared last summer criticizing Palo Alto libraries for displaying literature about LGBTQ issues as part of its Pride Month celebration, Lee brought Outlet to Fletcher for a parent education event attended by more than 75 people.

Outlet's role in Lee's efforts to better support LGBTQ students at Fletcher has been "all encompassing," she said.

"This organization has been key to my work not only in the GSA but my work in parent education, my work as a librarian," Lee said. "It's really invaluable."

Outlet, which is part of local nonprofit Adolescent Counseling Services, was awarded a $10,000 grant this year through the Palo Alto Weekly's Holiday Fund to support services for transgender youth; counseling for LGBTQ teens struggling with depression, anxiety and other mental health issues; and education, consultations and outreach for hundreds of Palo Alto, Menlo Park and East Palo Alto residents.

Outlet was formed in 1997 as an HIV-prevention and education program through the YWCA of Palo Alto. The organization taught volunteer high school students how to lead HIV-prevention workshops, with the goal that they would then teach peers at their schools. It turned out that many of those students identified as gay, lesbian or bisexual, eventually prompting Outlet to form a support group for LGBTQ youth.

Today, Outlet runs six peer support groups for different ages (from 10 years old to 25) and gender identities. All of the groups are free, drop-in, confidential and run year-round.

The structure of the groups is flexible, said Ryan Fouts, program director for Outlet. Sometimes, the teens want to talk through challenges they're facing at school or at home, such as difficulty coming out or being misgendered by a peer or teacher. Other groups spend time doing homework, playing games or simply hanging out.

A transgender man who transitioned from female to male while a Gunn High School student several years ago said in a previous Weekly interview that at the Outlet groups, he felt he had "permission to exist."

"These are spaces where youth can come and find support with their peers and have a chance to be who they are," Fouts said. "It gives youth an opportunity to maybe explore and test out their identity, if they're still in a process where they're exploring who they are. This is a safe place for them to do that. And it's an opportunity for them to meet other people who are going through similar things."

The Holiday Fund grant will help Outlet boost its support in particular for transgender students, a group that has "drastically increased" at the program in recent years, according to the Outlet's grant application. Transgender youth now make up one-third of all young people served by the program's support groups.

Fouts attributed this increase to a "slow progression of folks feeling more comfortable coming out earlier."

Outlet is seeing an overall rise in LGBTQ teens needing and seeking mental health services. According to the California LGBTQ Youth Report, more than 78% of LGBTQ youth in the state felt depressed or down in the prior week and only 10% said all of their school staff are supportive of LGBTQ students. In Santa Clara County, students who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or queer are three times more likely than their peers to attempt suicide and are 1.5 times more likely to use drugs and alcohol, according to a 2016 survey.

Outlet staff, all of whom are members of the LGBTQ community, work to communicate to youth that "there's an opportunity to be happy and healthy and successful, despite challenges that you might experience" related to gender identity and sexual orientation, Fouts said.

Lee said that students in Fletcher's Gender Sexuality Alliance (GSA) club have benefited from an Outlet staff member who is biologically female but identifies with they/them pronouns. The staff member comes to the school library, and students can sign up to spend time with them one-on-one or in pairs.

For the students, the staff member is "like a rockstar," Lee said. "The first time they showed up my kids were like, 'Here is a person who identifies within the community. They are out, they are proud and they are thriving.'"

Lee said Outlet's training has helped staff better understand the spectrum of gender identities. She urges teachers to ask students their preferred name and pronouns at the start the school year — and to apologize directly if they get it wrong at any point. She's also become more aware of gendered language, such using as the phrases "you guys" or "ladies and gents" to address students.

"This is the kind of advice I'll get from Outlet," she said. "I'll send an almost-weekly email: 'This came up. What do I do about this?'"

One of Outlet's priorities this year is to be more purposeful in reaching out to local middle schools, which are increasingly requesting support from the program, Fouts said. The program provides training to teachers and school staff on how to create inclusive policies and safe environments and on the laws that protect students' safety at school.

Outlet also offers free consultations to families; provides parent education in school districts such as Palo Alto Unified; and is launching soon a support group for parents of transgender and gender-expansive youth.

Outlet anticipates serving more than 3,000 people this year through all of its services, including 330 LGBTQ youth and straight allies.

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2019 Grant Recipients

49ers Academy
Academic and social support services for East Palo Alto students attending Menlo-Atherton High School$5,000

Able Works
Financial literacy education for high school students at East Palo Alto Academy, Oxford Day Academy and Menlo-Atherton High School$5,000

Ada's Café
Training and support of developmentally disabled employees and high school student interns$5,000

Adolescent Counseling Services
Outlet Program providing support services and counseling for LGBTQ+ youth$7,500

Aim High for High School
Summer academic program for East Palo Alto middle school students aimed at preparing them for a successful high school experience$5,000

All Students Matter
Expansion of literacy intervention program focused on 3rd-5th grade students in Ravenswood school district$15,000

Art in Action
Art education program serving more than 650 students in grades K-8 at three schools in the Ravenswood school district$5,000

Art of Yoga
Yoga, creative art and other mindfulness activities for more than 500 juvenile girls in the criminal justice system$5,000

Bayshore Christian Ministries
Academic "Create" summer camp providing STEAM-focused classes and activities for Ravenswood district middle school students$5,000

Big Brothers Big Sisters
Support for Match Support Specialists who oversee and coach the adult volunteers matched with children$5,000

Buena Vista Homework Club
Homework center for elementary and middle school aged youth living at the Buena Vista Mobile Home Park$10,000

CASSY
School-based free mental health services to students and families in five Ravenswood elementary and middle schools$10,000

Community Legal Services in East Palo Alto
Legal assistance to East Palo Alto residents facing eviction and other rental housing problems and conflicts$10,000

Downtown Streets Team
Funding for a Case Management Flex Fund to help team members pay for fees and other expenses that are necessary to pursue housing, employment and other opportunities$7,500

DreamCatchers
General support for after-school tutoring program serving low-income Palo Alto middle school students$20,000

East Palo Alto Academy Foundation
Peer leadership program to develop mentors and motivate high school students to participate in STEM-focused "Dream Lab"$7,500

East Palo Alto Charter School (EPACS)
Science program at K-5 elementary charter school$7,500

East Palo Alto Kids Foundation
Educator Micro Grants Program, providing $600 grants to Ravenswood school district teachers for classroom supplies and field trips$10,000

East Palo Alto Tennis & Tutoring
Development of math tutoring curriculum for underperforming 1st to 8th graders$10,000

Environmental Volunteers
Monthly public environmental education programs for youth and adults$5,000

Family Connections
Early childhood education program supporting parents of preschoolers through 3rd grade in East Palo Alto and east Menlo Park.$5,000

Fit Kids Foundation
Physical activity program for children 4-13 in East Palo Alto$5,000

Foundation for a College Education
College Knowledge middle and high school program designed to prepare students and their families to pursue a college education$7,500

Friends of Palo Alto Junior Museum & Zoo
Science Outreach Program providing hands on science instruction in Ravenswood school district$5,000

Get Involved Palo Alto
Service-learning internship placement program for high school students wanting to work with low-income youth$5,000

Hidden Villa
Summer camp scholarships$5,000

Jasper Ridge Farm
Farm animal visits to Ronald McDonald House$5,000

Kara
Spanish language grief support program$7,500

KIPP Valiant Community Prep
Mental health counseling services at public charter school in East Palo Alto$3,000

La Comida
Support for newly opened downtown senior lunch program$7,500

Live in Peace
"Gap Year Project" to guide and support at-risk high school graduates unprepared or uncertain about careers or college$7,500

Marine Science Institute
Underwriting of environmental and marine science education program for K-12 low-income students$5,000

Music in the Schools Foundation
Music education in Ravenswood school district$5,000

New Creation Home Ministries
Parenting and life skills classes for teen mothers in East Palo Alto$5,000

New Voices for Youth
Video production equipment and training for middle school students at the Boys and Girls Club in East Palo Alto$3,000

Palo Alto Art Center Foundation
Cultural Kaleidoscope, an arts-education program pairing Palo Alto and East Palo Alto students and using professional artists$5,000

Palo Alto Housing
Workshops for high school students and parents residing in subsidized housing on college and career options and financial planning$5,000

Palo Alto Music Connection
Volunteer student-run group providing free music lessons to Ravenswood middle school students$5,000

Peninsula HealthCare Connection
Mobile "Backpack Medicine" program to reach area homeless who need but do not seek out medical care$7,500

Peninsula Volunteers
Meals on Wheels program serving 13,000 meals to low-income clients in East Palo Alto and Menlo Park$5,000

Project WeHOPE
Classes and counseling to support the homeless in East Palo Alto$15,000

Ravenswood Education Foundation
Purchase of school uniforms and other clothing for homeless and low-income students in Ravenswood school district$7,500

Rebuilding Together Peninsula
Safe at Home home repair program serving low-income home owners in East Palo Alto$5,000

Silicon Valley Urban Debate League
After school debate program at East Palo Alto Academy, Oxford Day Academy and College Track and Summer Debate Institute$5,000

St. Elizabeth Seton School
New and updated science text books for K-5 classrooms$10,000

St. Francis of Assisi Youth Club
After school literacy and enrichment program for 3rd through 5th graders in East Palo Alto and east Menlo Park$5,000

TheatreWorks
TheatreWorks for Schools arts education program for grades K-12$5,000

YMCA East Palo Alto
Summer "Full STEAM Ahead" program for high school students, combining academic curriculum with recreational outings$10,000

YMCA Ross Road
Five-week summer enrichment camp for low-income elementary school students who are required to attend PAUSD summer school$5,000

Youth Community Service
Support of Summer of Service day camp scholarships, service clubs at local middle and high schools, service days and life skills programs for at-risk teens$20,000

Youth Speaks Out
Expressive arts program enabling marginalized teens whose voices may not be otherwise heard to collaborate on artistic projects with each other and supportive adults.$12,000

Child Care Facility Improvement Grants

Friends of Preschool Family
Playground improvements, including outdoor musical instruments and raised planting bed$5,000

Grace Lutheran Preschool
Raised planter boxes and new irrigation system in play yard$5,000

The Learning Center
Continued construction of outdoor classroom, including water table, raised beds and outdoor musical instruments$5,000

Palo Alto Community Child Care
Outdoor garden learning classroom at Thacher Children's Center$10,000

Palo Alto Friends Nursery School
Outdoor teacher work station$5,000

Parents Nursery School
Maintenance of outdoor play structures, including replacement of old tires with building blocks$5,000

As of Jan 14, 2020,
382 donors have contributed $458,525.
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Tom & Darlene McCalmont500
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Roger Warnke300
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Linda & Jerry Elkind250
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Tom & Nancy Fiene100
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Virginia Laibl100
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Victor Befera100
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Anne & Don Vermeil*
Steve & Diane Ciesinski500
Bruce & Jane Gee250
Kenyon Family500
Jocelyn Dong*
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Susan Light100
Ellen Krasnow*
Dennis & Cindy Dillon300
Graceann Johnson100
Diane & Branimir Sikic*
James Lobdell250
Eric Filseth350
Deborah Wexler500
Erika Buck100
Ted & Becky Baer200
Arthur Keller100
Omar & Michelle Baldonado*
Lodato Family500
Dennis & Cindy Dillon*
Helene Pier*
Good Bear Charitable Fund5,000
Bjorn & Michele Liencres1,000
Kathryn & A.C. Johnston100
Florence Barr250
John Wilkes600
Chris Saccheri*
Daniel Chapiro400
Laurie Hunter & Jonathan MacQuitty2,500
Jean & Dexter Dawes250
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Bob Aulgur1,000
Joyce & Gerry Barker200
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Steve & Gayle Brugler1,000
John Tang200
Joan Norton*
David & Betsy Fryberger100
Lawrence Yang & Jennifer Kuan1,000
Barry Goldblatt200
Larry Klein1,000
Mike & Jean Couch250
Veronica Tincher*
David Fischer & Susan Bartalo200
Kenneth Bencala & Sally O'Neil200
Shapiro Family*
David & Karen Backer500
David Labaree200
Leannah Hunt250
Pat & Penny Barrett150
Jean Doble*
Annette Isaacson100
Linda Selden480
Sandy Napel103
Deborah Williams & Jean Luc Laminette1,000
Merele McClure200
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Barbara Kinsey500
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Neilson Buchanan250
Sherry Brown*
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Nancy Peterson100
Craig Viau500
Reed Content250
Brian & Jill Bicknell250
Kerei Yuen500
Victor & Norma Hesterman100
Susan Thomas500
Ellson Family100
Shirley & Marc Feldman200
Kay Sabin*
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Peter & Leanne Giles200
Anna Welke50
Elizabeth Shepard*
Lisa Forssell500
Subutai Ahmad100
Jennie Savage1,000
Shirley Ely1,000
Duane Bay & Barbara Noparstak100
Catherine Dolton100
Mazze-Cohen Family150
Glenn & Lorna Affleck30
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Kathy Morris*
Ray Bacchetti250
Phillip Zschokke50
Robert Spinrad*
Alissa Riper Picker250
Duncan Matteson500
Nate Rosenberg200
Don & Marie Snow100
Bob Kirkwood*
Leonard Ely500
Ruth & Chet Johnson*
Nancy & Bob Lobdell*
Pam Grady350
Barbara E. Schwartz*
Ryan Kamita*
Boyd Paulson*
Thomas W. & Louise L. Phinney*
Leo & Sylvia Breidenbach*
Bob Donald*
Fr. John Fitzpatrick C.S.Sp.*
David W. Mitchell400
Ted Linden200
Lee Domenik*
Alan & Tracy*
Er-Ying & Yen-Chen Yen250
Betty Meltzer25
Mary Alyce Pearson*
Kathy Riskin Graham*
Jack Sutorius500
Dr. Elliot W. Eisner200
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Brett Remmel & Mark Remmel100
Emmett Lorey*
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Bill Land*
Jim & Dottie Mellberg200
William Preston1,000
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Maureen & Jim Missett*
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Loving parents Albert & Beverly Pellizzari*
Our beloved son Samuel Benjamin Kurland*
Harvey Schloss100
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Carol Berkowitz*
Bob Markevitch*
Kaye Kelley & Richard Van Dusen250
Dr. David Zlotnick200
William Bill Iaculla100
Mark Georgia*
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Normal L. Frazee, 100 years young400
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Lucy Berman's Clients2,500
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Palo Alto Weekly Moonlight Run89,181
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