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"You Gotta Have Balls [to do counseling] . . .

. . . It's really scary, taking a look at yourself." A man said this to me yesterday while asking for my help. It is scary, it does take balls (or the female...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Aug. 16, 2019
There are no comments yet. 774 Views

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Premarital and Couples: Marriage Maintenance

According to research by Dr. John Gottman, who runs the "Love Lab" in Seattle, most couples wait an average of six years from the time they sense issues...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Jul. 26, 2019
Last comment by freddie2789, on Aug 16, 2019 at 5:03 am | 1 comment | 2256 Views

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Premarital and Couples: Check Your Best Self at the Door

When you embark on your day, many of you either consciously or by habit, get focused on what lies ahead.  You think about what you need to do and how...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Aug. 9, 2019
There are no comments yet. 1736 Views

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Couples: Increase in Parental Romance = Happier Kids, Too

As parents, many of you spend a lot of time and energy thinking about what's best for your kids. In many families, kids are prioritized above one's partner. I believe...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Jun. 7, 2019
Last comment by DKHSK, on Jun 14, 2019 at 10:45 am | 5 comments | 3441 Views

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Premarital and Couples: How to Stop an Argument

1. Close your mouth (really, it works! But read on . . . ). 2. Make the "T" for time-out signal with your hands. 3. Give your partner the benefit...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on May. 24, 2019
Last comment by MomOfTeen, on May 25, 2019 at 10:18 pm | 2 comments | 3641 Views

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Premarital and Existing Couples: Marriage Rules: Yours, Mine, or Ours?

Each of you has a set of rules that go with being in a committed relationship. I can guarantee that all your rules are not the same, although I hope that...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Mar. 21, 2019
Last comment by Patreon, on May 21, 2019 at 9:47 am | 1 comment | 4291 Views

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Couples: Thanks

I was out ill for a week a while back, and needed minor surgery. I often remind clients to say thanks to their partner for all s/he does, and to share specific appreciation...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Feb. 22, 2019
Last comment by Coworker dating, on May 20, 2019 at 7:20 am | 2 comments | 4704 Views

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I smile, I laugh, and pretend I’m okay

I went to a memorial service for Andres Miranda, who almost made it to 20 years old. He died of Cystic Fibrosis (CF) after having been diagnosed at 4 months. The...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Mar. 1, 2019
Last comment by Coworker, on May 20, 2019 at 7:18 am | 2 comments | 4882 Views

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Premarital and Couples: Valentine's Day: Annually or Daily?

Valentine's Day, a very commercialized version of "I love you, I'm thinking of you, you're the most important person to me," was three months ago now....

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on May. 18, 2019
There are no comments yet. 2425 Views

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Premarital and Couples: An Affair Myth: Not Getting Enough at Home

In her book NOT "Just Friends" Shirley Glass, Ph.D. writes about the research she has conducted about affairs. One result blows away an old myth:...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Apr. 26, 2019
Last comment by Flexible Fidelity, on May 3, 2019 at 4:53 pm | 3 comments | 4205 Views

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Couples: Waiting or Acting?

I encourage you to figure out one thing you can do differently today. I often find that couples are waiting for the other to change, to say something, to do...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Mar. 8, 2019
Last comment by Lamerty , on May 3, 2019 at 3:51 am | 1 comment | 4498 Views

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Couples and Premarital Couples: Thank You

I reflect on the process of therapy that I have been honored to have gone through with my clients each year. Therapy is a difficult and at times, exhausting process....

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Mar. 29, 2019
Last comment by serendeputy, on May 3, 2019 at 3:43 am | 2 comments | 4899 Views

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Premarital and Couples: "You're Not Listening to Me!" may mean "I don't feel heard."

A discussion can quickly escalate into an argument when one partner (or both) don't know that your partner heard what you were saying, either literally, or an underlying...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Apr. 17, 2019
Last comment by Rabbi Feldman, on Apr 20, 2019 at 9:47 am | 1 comment | 2952 Views

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Premarital and Couples: Living as Roommates?

I see couples who eventually realize they are living as roommates: they may be good parents together, run their household together, do their respective jobs, spend...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Apr. 12, 2019
Last comment by Chandrama Anderson, on Apr 17, 2019 at 7:21 am | 2 comments | 3575 Views

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Premarital and Couples: Thoughts and Dogs

I'm writing to you today from my waiting room. I like to sit here looking at the aquarium; watching the neon tetras dart through the water and the African frogs...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Apr. 5, 2019
There are no comments yet. 4873 Views

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Couples: Write a Personal Ad . . . to Your Partner . . .

. . . stating what you have to offer and give in your relationship. Don't make it dependent on what you are getting, either. (Later you can write another personal...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Mar. 15, 2019
Last comment by 3 comments | 4532 Views

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Couples: Life Can Change on a Dime

Readers, let me begin by saying that I'm fine. Yesterday instead of seeing my wonderful clients, I spent the morning and early afternoon in the ER. I was newly diagnosed...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Jan. 4, 2019
Last comment by 192.168.1.1, on Mar 22, 2019 at 1:54 am | 7 comments | 5865 Views

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Couples: "The Goal of Marriage is Not to Think Alike, but to Think Together"

I recently came across this quote comes from Robert Dodd, and it resonates in my work with couples. We often select a partner that is different from us, yet complements...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Dec. 27, 2018
Last comment by Believe In Marriage, on Mar 15, 2019 at 8:44 am | 2 comments | 5604 Views

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Ten Tips for Teens and Young Adults to Survive a Dysfunctional Family

Steve Simpson is the author of four books for teens and young adults. In each book he includes The Teenage and Young Adult Survival Handbook. I asked Steve...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Dec. 13, 2018
Last comment by impress family, on Mar 13, 2019 at 8:33 am | 5 comments | 6354 Views

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Couples: Child Loss, "No U-Turn at Mercy Street"

"No U-Turn at Mercy Street" by Chandrama Anderson, MA, MFT. Here's a quote and the back cover copy: No U-Turn at Mercy Street is an...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Dec. 7, 2018
Last comment by DON’T FORGET YOURSELF, DON’T SACRIFICE YOURSELF, on Mar 7, 2019 at 6:28 am | 3 comments | 5543 Views
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