Also fortunately, you do have the choice to keep growing, to become your better and better self (notice I didn’t say ‘Best’ because there’s already too much striving for perfection in Silicon Valley).
Think about what is working for you in your life, and what isn’t. Admit that you are a work in progress; it will make it much easier to seek change, learn new tools, skills, and to educate yourself. Do you want a better marriage? Better relationship with your kids? Your boss? Co-workers? Friends? Family? I hope so.
People spend a lot of time trying to present themselves a certain way, to look as though they’ve got everything together. Yet we’re all human, and we have challenges. I’ve worked on patience my whole adult life. I’m much better at it now. Is there still room to improve? Absolutely. So I keep at it.
Most people don’t change until the pain of staying the same is greater than the fear of change. Perhaps just acknowledging that may free you up enough to make changes by choice; without waiting for the pain to become overwhelming. It’s a longer way back to health if you wait.
My goal in sharing this is to give you hope. Hope for yourself, for your marriage and relationships, hope for humanity. We need hope. We also need action. Take action to have healthier, better relationships. Be kind to yourself. Be kind to others.