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Mom Said a Lot

Uploaded: Mar 18, 2022
I’m going to share a piece I wrote in my mid-20s. You will see intergenerational wounds, and part of what I have had to work through in my own life. My husband tells me how amazing it is that I’m “so intact and emotionally available given what I came from”.

You’ll likely a recognize a few statements you might say now and again to your own child(ren). I hope for you and your kid’s sake that it’s not more than that. If it is, start making changes today.

Please remember it is never too late to work on yourself, to sort through family of origin issues.

Mom Said a Lot

Mommy said I love you
Mom said I’m busy, don’t bother me
Mom said go play outside
Mom said you’re too short to play basketball
Mommy said I’ll always be there
Mom said I’m going on strike
Mom said it’s Shithead’s [dad fault
Mommy said I love you
Mom said your father must not love you
Mom said I’m reading, sleeping, talking, go away, no
Mom said because I said so
Mommy said you’ll always know I love you
Mom said behind my back she’s a manic depressive
Mom said do you want to be like your father?
Mom said you’re just like your father
Mommy said see what a close family we are?
Mom said go to your room
Mommy said you’re such a good girl, not like your brother who is like Shithead
Mom said why can’t you be perfect like your sister?
Mom said it’s all your fault
Mommy said come sit on my lap Mommy stroked my forehead
Mom said come here [to my brother, with a 2” leather belt
Mom said I changed my mind
Mom said don’t go anywhere with your father
Mom said stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry for
Mommy said I’ll tell you the truth
Mom said I’m tired of you
Mom said I don’t like your hair like that
Mom said that’s the wrong color, choice, feeling
Mommy said I’m always here for you
Mom said I don’t want to hear that, deal with it, talk about it
Mom said I never said that
Mom said I don’t remember that
Mommy said I love you
Mom said a lot
What is it worth to you?


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Posted by Kevin, a resident of Castlewood,
on Mar 22, 2022 at 3:15 pm

Kevin is a registered user.

Thank you! Again your blog topic is wonderful!

Here are a couple of things that my mom said.

- after a big argument with my dad, on her way out the door to leave him, mom said she will come back later to get me.

- mom said we are going to have bologna sandwich for dinner (big smile on my face after she said it)

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