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Premarital and Couples: Does Size Matter?

Uploaded: Mar 19, 2021
All joking aside, a tidbit on gender and the emotional brain in Scientific American Mind (SAM) July/August 2013, shares that women have a larger caudate nucleus and hippocampus; for learning and memory. Men, on the other hand, have larger amygdala and hypothalamus -- the emotional centers of the brain.

SAM mentions that it is yet unknown how the size differences translates to behavior.

It does raise interesting questions and speculation, however. I hear plenty of women wish that her man was more emotionally available to her, and I see that a lot of men are quite emotional under the veneer of his manliness.

We might joke at our house about the "one" feeling my husband has ("Honey, let's talk about your feeling"), but both genders are complex and the pressures each person is facing deserve both of your attention.

While we might long for a deep emotional connection, what would it actually look, feel, sound and be like to have it? What behaviors might you try if your goal is connection and kindness?
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