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About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in ...  (More)

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Premarital and Couples: "The Art of Racing in the Rain"

Uploaded: Jul 5, 2019
I recently read The Art of Racing in the Rain by Garth Stein for the second time, and liked it just as much as I did the first time. It is a bitter-sweet story that is very well written. If you can't relate to cars or driving at all, it may not be the book for you -- but I'd give it a try in any case because it's about relationships. This book is coming out as movie soon. Bring tissues!

This time as I read it, I had on my couple's therapist hat, and noticed things I see in my office, too. Without giving away the story, here are a few interesting points to think about in relation to your partner and yourself:

-Incredible misses with my partner because I didn't say something I needed to
-A lack of self-care that leads to illness -- or perhaps tremendous fear that prevented healthy action
-Support for and selflessness out of love for my partner
-Deep connection
-Family and in-law issues
-Focus and commitment
-Passion and dreams
-Shit happens

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