By Cheryl Bac
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About this blog: I'm a wife, stay-at-home mom, home cook, marathon runner, and PhD. I recently moved to the Silicon Valley after completing my PhD in Social Psychology and becoming a mother one month apart. Before that, I ran seven marathons incl... (More)
About this blog: I'm a wife, stay-at-home mom, home cook, marathon runner, and PhD. I recently moved to the Silicon Valley after completing my PhD in Social Psychology and becoming a mother one month apart. Before that, I ran seven marathons including Chicago and Boston. Exercise is an integral part of my life. I hope to one day go back to long distance running and tackle the New York City Marathon. Right now I run after my one year old son. Although I am a stay-at-home mom, we are rarely "at home." My mom also stayed at home with my brother and me. She warned me that, although rewarding, it can be isolating. So, with her help, I learned the importance of getting out into the community and meeting other mothers. On the rare occasion when I am at home and have a hand or two free, I squeeze in time to scrapbook. As a new mom, many challenges are thrown my way. I hope my opinions, triumphs, and struggles help experienced parents reminisce, new parents cope, and parents-to-be get an honest glimpse of what the first years of motherhood can entail. (Hide)
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As a parent it's easy to become a "ghost." As this post
addresses, someone who buys groceries, puts laundry away, makes dinner, packs school lunches, loads the dishwasher, and vacuums all unnoticed.
With three kids sometimes it's tempting to use those free minutes, when baby is napping and my older ones are playing together, to attempt to finish a never ending list of chores.
But at the moment, I'm making a conscious choice to do something that I actually want to do during these fleeting moments. Practice a new song on the piano, write notes to our kids, make photo books and other mementos, read a book, etc. None of these projects are big and all can be started and paused in a moment's notice.
This October I'm doing my best not to be a ghost who does the laundry and cleans the house unnoticed. I would much rather have my kids notice me filling most of these free moments with activities I enjoy.