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Mother’s Day

Uploaded: May 12, 2017
To all you moms out there, Happy Mother’s Day.

Husbands: Help your kids do something nice for their mom, and you do something for yours. Even though you have a wife, she’s not your mom. So don’t forget her.

If you’re a mom that focuses all your energy on your kids and not your husband, I seriously recommend you make him your top priority, with your kids a very close second. You two having a strong relationship provides the roof over the heads of your kids. If you need help, get it.

If you’ve had a child die, you’re still a mom, whether or not you have any other children.

Adoptive moms are moms. Informally adopted moms are moms, too.

If you have a difficult mom, figure out whether you want to, and what you may be able to do to improve that relationship. Family therapy may be a good idea.

If you are a difficult mom—and you may or may not think you are since you always behave like this—take action to improve your relationship with your kids, whether they’re minors or adults.

My mom and dear Grandma died in 2003. The mom of my heart died in 2015. They are still moms to me and always will be.

My son is turning 21 in less than a month, and my daughter died in 1998. I love being their mom.

Regardless of your mom status, Happy Mother’s Day. Remember, it’s about a lot more than flowers and chocolate. It’s about the relationship.

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