By Chandrama Anderson
E-mail Chandrama Anderson
About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in ... (More)
About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in Silicon Valley for 15 years before becoming a therapist. My background in high-tech is helpful in understanding local couples' dynamics and the pressures of living here. I am a wife, mom, sister, friend, author, and lifelong advocate for causes I believe in (such as marriage equality). My parents are both deceased. My son graduated culinary school and is heading toward a degree in Sociology. I enjoy reading, hiking, water fitness, movies, 49ers and Stanford football, Giants baseball, and riding a tandem bike with my husband. I love the beach and mountains; nature is my place of restoration. In my work with couples, and in this blog, I combine knowledge from many fields to bring you my best ideas, tips, tools and skills, plus book and movie reviews, and musings to help you be your genuine self, find your own voice, and have a happy and healthy relationship. Don't be surprised to hear about brain research and business skills, self-soothing techniques from all walks of life, suggestions and experiments, and anything that lights my passion for couples. (Author and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Calif. Lic # MFC 45204.) (Hide)
View all posts from Chandrama Anderson
A Moment of Silence (and then action) for the Families and Loved Ones in Orlando
Uploaded: Jun 12, 2016
This shooting in the gay bar in Orlando is so horrifying, that it is hard to find words for it.
It seems that most of the random shootings, which are also horrifying, are not targeted at a specific group (although plenty of that has happened throughout history).
This was an attack especially on the LGBT community. Most of you likely know someone who is LGBT; even if s/he is not out to you.
Please take time to hold vigil for the families and loved ones who died, and those who are injured.
Then ask yourself, "What can I do?" And then do it -- large, medium, or small -- it doesn't matter. Let's not be apathetic.
Update: This amazing poem came into my inbox today, and the author gave permission for me to post it here. It's her "action" after Orlando.
Pulse Night Club Orlando, FL 6/12/16, 1:49 am
I am Xavier, I am Juan, I am Enrique
You are Amanda, Frankie and Angel
We are Mercedes, Christopher and Luis
We are 6 degrees of separation
Which means there is no separation
If I could have been there at 1:49 am
I would have taken each person by the hand
Led them outside said, Look at those stars
Go home now - be safe
If I could have been there at 12:49 am
I would have kept Omar Mateen
Instead I’d take his hand
Say go home, go home
To your heart
Go home to your humanity
There you can find safety
There you will find you are not separate
I would, if I could, turn his hate into tears
I would say the distance between
Your dreams and my longing is
The distance between
I would say that we are all us
There is no you and them
Only the disconnections
of you/them in your own heart
It’s the truth that hurts the most
If I had been there at 1:49 am
I could not have done a thing
Nor could God
God gave us choice and will
We choose what we will
God says choose life
God cries with us
And asks us to remember
They are us
- Sally Churgel
What is it worth to you?
Post a comment
Sorry, but further commenting on this topic has been closed.