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Warriors Win History-Making Game!

Uploaded: Apr 14, 2016
You may wonder why I am writing about the Warriors on a couple's blog. Partly to celebrate!

And, it's because I'm thinking about how they got there, and how couples can reach their goals, too. And it's a reminder to celebrate, as a team.

The Warriors had to play as a team. In the post-game interview, Draymond said that when he's older and looks back on this time, what he will remember is how much fun they had.

Are you playing as a team? Are you having fun? Are you on the same side as one another, and everything else in life is on the other side of the net? These are the things that you need as a couple. Are you letting someone or something else come between you?

When you have what Stan Tatkin calls a "Couple Bubble" it creates an emotional safety net for you two, and ultimately over your kids. It's as though the two of you are the roof of your family -- together.

Is there a star in your house? A bench player? Is that what you want? How can you even things out so everyone wins? Make sure you speak up about what is important to you before resentment sets in. If you are the partner who talks more, make more air space for your partner to talk.

Do you know how to coordinate your efforts? Do you do alley-oops? The alley-oop combines elements of teamwork, pinpoint passing, timing and finishing. Do you hog the ball? Do you pass a lot to make the most of situations that arise in real time?

Congratulations to the Warriors, and congratulations to you, couples. Keep it up.



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