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About this blog: I'm a wife, stay-at-home mom, home cook, marathon runner, and PhD. I recently moved to the Silicon Valley after completing my PhD in Social Psychology and becoming a mother one month apart. Before that, I ran seven marathons incl...  (More)

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Uploaded: Jul 7, 2015
Our daughter is becoming a faster and faster crawler every day. Over the past ten months she has watched her older brother play with all of his toys and now she is very eager to join in. Our son is not as excited about his sister's new mobility. And I am figuring out how to keep the peace.

Over the past 10 months the ways our two kids coexist has been in constant change. When our daughter was a newborn I could easily read paperback books to my son with my daughter sleeping in my arms. Now board books are a much easier choice so she doesn't tear up the pages. When our daughter was an infant, she enjoyed it when her brother dangled toys in front of her. Now she tries to snatch them away and is frustrated if he takes them out of her reach. When she started sitting up, she enjoyed watching her brother play with his vehicles at a distance. Now she quickly crawls over and tries to join in on the fun.

It's exciting, yet exhausting, to see their relationship develop and to try to keep up with all of the constant adjustments. Our son is looking forward to the day when his sister stops putting toys in her mouth. And I'm sure our daughter is excited to learn how to walk, talk and play like her older brother.

Some days it is tempting to just divide our living room in half. An older kid only area and a baby only area. However, I'm glad our pediatrician suggested something else. She suggested creating just an "older kids only area." That way the choking hazards are away from baby and the complex toddler/preschooler toys don't get messed with. But our son can freely choose to join his sister as she explores. And, at least at this stage, she is always eager for his company.

How did you keep the peace during your second child's first year?
What is it worth to you?


Posted by Mother of 4, a resident of Palo Verde School,
on Jul 8, 2015 at 8:10 am

Yes, discovered it was much easier to keep the older child and toys in the play yard (and the Christmas tree) and let the crawler/toddler a large area. I have one memory of the older child playing legos in the play yard while the toddler sat on the outside playing with my tupperwares from the one kitchen cupboard that was kept unchildproofed for that very reason.

Posted by Cheryl Bac, a Palo Alto Online blogger,
on Jul 8, 2015 at 3:30 pm

Cheryl Bac is a registered user.

Mother of 4 - What a creative use for a play yard! We also have one kitchen cabinet filled with Tupperware for baby to play. It's always fun to see what she pulls out.

Posted by LJ, a resident of another community,
on Jul 8, 2015 at 8:14 pm

"Here comes the wrecker! " is what Mom called out after we had built a tower out of blocks and my baby brother was allowed to take it down. Back then there were playpens ( which is where he was with his toys while we were building). I am not a mom but I'm guessing that playpens are not very common any more. The older kids' mission was to build the tower; the crawler's mission was to take it down. You have important memories in the making! Have fun!!

Posted by Cheryl Bac, a Palo Alto Online blogger,
on Jul 8, 2015 at 11:57 pm

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LJ - What a fun game! I'll need to suggest it to our son. Our daughter would be a great wrecker.

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