By Cheryl Bac
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About this blog: I'm a wife, stay-at-home mom, home cook, marathon runner, and PhD. I recently moved to the Silicon Valley after completing my PhD in Social Psychology and becoming a mother one month apart. Before that, I ran seven marathons incl... (More)
About this blog: I'm a wife, stay-at-home mom, home cook, marathon runner, and PhD. I recently moved to the Silicon Valley after completing my PhD in Social Psychology and becoming a mother one month apart. Before that, I ran seven marathons including Chicago and Boston. Exercise is an integral part of my life. I hope to one day go back to long distance running and tackle the New York City Marathon. Right now I run after my one year old son. Although I am a stay-at-home mom, we are rarely "at home." My mom also stayed at home with my brother and me. She warned me that, although rewarding, it can be isolating. So, with her help, I learned the importance of getting out into the community and meeting other mothers. On the rare occasion when I am at home and have a hand or two free, I squeeze in time to scrapbook. As a new mom, many challenges are thrown my way. I hope my opinions, triumphs, and struggles help experienced parents reminisce, new parents cope, and parents-to-be get an honest glimpse of what the first years of motherhood can entail. (Hide)
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Some new parents choose to stay home with their newborns for days/weeks/months. I prefer to get out, even if it is only to run a quick errand.
As a new mother it is very important to rest, but it is also important to take care of yourself. For some that may mean staying at home. For me, it means getting some fresh air, interacting with others and changing my scenery.
When you leave the house with two kids under three, others sometimes stop to say hello and smile. Many hold the door open for you and comment about your hands being full. I assume that some are remembering back to when they were juggling two kids themselves. And I am very thankful.
However, I've also been stopped and questioned about why I am taking my newborn out of the house. These types of criticizing questions were harder to address as a first time mom. Now that I am a second time mom, I know the easiest answer is to just say that my pediatrician says it is OK. There is no need for any additional explanation.
Yes, it can be a challenge to take a newborn out of the house, especially with a toddler. But it is also OK.
It's hard enough for parents with a newborn to get out of the house some days. Is it really necessary to try to make them feel guilty when doing so?
What comments were easier for you to address as a second time parent?