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Retreat Day

Uploaded: Sep 23, 2014
Do you ever have a day where you just want to stay in bed? Tired, a little cranky. It seems it would probably be better off for those around me to be spared my presence. Nothing really terrible going on.

Just a retreat day. Do we let ourselves have it? Do we give our beloved a day off now and then? What happens, how do we feel when we're not "on" and productive? A day such as this now and then may be much needed rejuvenation.

(However, several weeks of this may indicate depression, and I recommend you exercise and meditate daily, socialize several times a week, even if you don't feel like it. And if these don't help, seek professional help.)

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Posted by Jay Park, a resident of Jackson Park,
on Sep 26, 2014 at 9:32 pm

The answer is yes.


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Posted by Ideafarm, a resident of Rengstorff Park,
on Oct 2, 2014 at 10:34 am

How do you start a positive type of article about needing a day off from the world, to ending it with "seek professional help"? If man or women works 50 hours a week and is drained 1day a week they may be depressed? Crazy concept lady. BTW my wife has a few days a month where she wants to be left alone and is kinda cranky, I just let her be. I don't think older women have this problem.....or wait. Yes they do! They just call it something else.


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Posted by Chandrama Anderson, a Palo Alto Online blogger,
on Oct 2, 2014 at 12:32 pm

Chandrama Anderson is a registered user.

Thanks for your comment. My goal was to notice that we all need retreat days now and again.

In the last paragraph, I also intended to contrast that with clinical depression, which is a different issue. Symptoms do not abate for two or more weeks (vs. a day here and there). Those who suffer from clinical depression deserve the care they need.


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