By Cheryl Bac
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About this blog: I'm a wife, stay-at-home mom, home cook, marathon runner, and PhD. I recently moved to the Silicon Valley after completing my PhD in Social Psychology and becoming a mother one month apart. Before that, I ran seven marathons incl... (More)
About this blog: I'm a wife, stay-at-home mom, home cook, marathon runner, and PhD. I recently moved to the Silicon Valley after completing my PhD in Social Psychology and becoming a mother one month apart. Before that, I ran seven marathons including Chicago and Boston. Exercise is an integral part of my life. I hope to one day go back to long distance running and tackle the New York City Marathon. Right now I run after my one year old son. Although I am a stay-at-home mom, we are rarely "at home." My mom also stayed at home with my brother and me. She warned me that, although rewarding, it can be isolating. So, with her help, I learned the importance of getting out into the community and meeting other mothers. On the rare occasion when I am at home and have a hand or two free, I squeeze in time to scrapbook. As a new mom, many challenges are thrown my way. I hope my opinions, triumphs, and struggles help experienced parents reminisce, new parents cope, and parents-to-be get an honest glimpse of what the first years of motherhood can entail. (Hide)
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Uploaded: Jun 7, 2014
When you decide to be a working or a stay-at-home parent, it's impossible to know exactly how that decision will affect you in one, ten, or twenty plus years down the road. How will it affect your financial future? Will your marriage be stronger or weaker than it is now? Will your future career be as enjoyable as the one you decided to keep, put on hold, or give up?
It's impossible to know the answers to these questions ahead of time. One of the most difficult parts of staying-at-home is hearing about how it did not work out for some and the regret they experience as a result. Staying-at-home hurt their career opportunities or their marriage more than they expected. Or something unanticipated happened (e.g., a medical condition, an accident, an affair).
Recently, I've enjoyed reading the comments
about whether readers regretted their decision to stay-at-home or not. None of the arguments are new to me, but I'm curious to find out which poster I'll sound most like when my son is off to college.
For those readers with older children, do you regret your choice to stay-at-home or work?
What is it worth to you?
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