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About this blog: I'm a wife, stay-at-home mom, home cook, marathon runner, and PhD. I recently moved to the Silicon Valley after completing my PhD in Social Psychology and becoming a mother one month apart. Before that, I ran seven marathons incl... (More)
About this blog: I'm a wife, stay-at-home mom, home cook, marathon runner, and PhD. I recently moved to the Silicon Valley after completing my PhD in Social Psychology and becoming a mother one month apart. Before that, I ran seven marathons including Chicago and Boston. Exercise is an integral part of my life. I hope to one day go back to long distance running and tackle the New York City Marathon. Right now I run after my one year old son. Although I am a stay-at-home mom, we are rarely "at home." My mom also stayed at home with my brother and me. She warned me that, although rewarding, it can be isolating. So, with her help, I learned the importance of getting out into the community and meeting other mothers. On the rare occasion when I am at home and have a hand or two free, I squeeze in time to scrapbook. As a new mom, many challenges are thrown my way. I hope my opinions, triumphs, and struggles help experienced parents reminisce, new parents cope, and parents-to-be get an honest glimpse of what the first years of motherhood can entail. (Hide)
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Not Keeping Score
Uploaded: Nov 14, 2013
You may have seen the article in The Chronicle a few weeks ago about Sharon Meers and Joanna Strober's new book Career Women Need a Better Half Who Does His Half
. Their book, Getting to 50/50, although not written for stay-at-home moms, interested me with its practical tips on how to divvy up life's every day tasks.
On the last day of high school, one of my teachers give us such advice. Rather than spend the last day discussing another definition or formula, he talked about career choices, college classes, and marriage. We were quite surprised when he told us that he always cleans the bathroom, but we liked his reason - because he hated cleaning it less than his wife did.
Rather than worry about tasks being divided exactly 50/50, my husband and I use a similar strategy. We divide tasks based on who will dislike doing it least, who is best at it, and who can do it most efficiently. We don't keep score and we don't alternate nights.
How do you split up the daily chores? Did it change when you got married? Had kids? Experienced another major life event?
What is it worth to you?
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