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By Chandrama Anderson
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About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in ... (More)
About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in Silicon Valley for 15 years before becoming a therapist. My background in high-tech is helpful in understanding local couples' dynamics and the pressures of living here. I am a wife, mom, sister, friend, author, and lifelong advocate for causes I believe in (such as marriage equality). My parents are both deceased. My son graduated culinary school and is heading toward a degree in Sociology. I enjoy reading, hiking, water fitness, movies, 49ers and Stanford football, Giants baseball, and riding a tandem bike with my husband. I love the beach and mountains; nature is my place of restoration. In my work with couples, and in this blog, I combine knowledge from many fields to bring you my best ideas, tips, tools and skills, plus book and movie reviews, and musings to help you be your genuine self, find your own voice, and have a happy and healthy relationship. Don't be surprised to hear about brain research and business skills, self-soothing techniques from all walks of life, suggestions and experiments, and anything that lights my passion for couples. (Author and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Calif. Lic # MFC 45204.) (Hide)
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I Do, I Don’t: One Reason Feelings Matter
Mar 30, 2023 10:19 am
Comments: 3 | Views: 3,683
Clients often say, “Why do my feelings matter? What’s the point? They’re not efficient. I’ve gotten this far without knowing my feelings.”
There... More
Mar 30, 2023 10:19 am
Comments: 3 | Views: 3,683
Clients often say, “Why do my feelings matter? What’s the point? They’re not efficient. I’ve gotten this far without knowing my feelings.”
There... More
Pry Me Off Dead Center
Apr 21, 2023 5:08 pm
Comments: 0 | Views: 3,251
Readers: Please focus on how these words affect you. How they call to you. Or completely miss you. Or go over your head. Let these words sink into you over time.... More
Apr 21, 2023 5:08 pm
Comments: 0 | Views: 3,251
Readers: Please focus on how these words affect you. How they call to you. Or completely miss you. Or go over your head. Let these words sink into you over time.... More
Be the Gift that your Partner gets to Open Every Day
May 14, 2023 1:37 pm
Comments: 20 | Views: 2,892
In Addition to Mother’s Day and Father’s Day . . .
I propose that everyday is wife/husband/significant other day. No, it doesn’t mean you have... More
May 14, 2023 1:37 pm
Comments: 20 | Views: 2,892
In Addition to Mother’s Day and Father’s Day . . .
I propose that everyday is wife/husband/significant other day. No, it doesn’t mean you have... More
Are You Exerting Power You’re Not Aware Of?
May 4, 2023 9:08 am
Comments: 0 | Views: 2,863
Power can be overt or covert.
If you grew up in a family where you were expected to comply (which means it was generally not discussed, and there were consequences... More
May 4, 2023 9:08 am
Comments: 0 | Views: 2,863
Power can be overt or covert.
If you grew up in a family where you were expected to comply (which means it was generally not discussed, and there were consequences... More
How to Do a Systems Review of Your Relationship
Feb 18, 2022 10:38 am
Comments: 0 | Views: 2,662
I’ve seen a lot of couples over the years that want to “fix” their marriage. They mostly want to continue doing exactly what they’ve been... More
Feb 18, 2022 10:38 am
Comments: 0 | Views: 2,662
I’ve seen a lot of couples over the years that want to “fix” their marriage. They mostly want to continue doing exactly what they’ve been... More
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