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About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in ... (More)
About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in Silicon Valley for 15 years before becoming a therapist. My background in high-tech is helpful in understanding local couples' dynamics and the pressures of living here. I am a wife, mom, sister, friend, author, and lifelong advocate for causes I believe in (such as marriage equality). My parents are both deceased. My son graduated culinary school and is heading toward a degree in Sociology. I enjoy reading, hiking, water fitness, movies, 49ers and Stanford football, Giants baseball, and riding a tandem bike with my husband. I love the beach and mountains; nature is my place of restoration. In my work with couples, and in this blog, I combine knowledge from many fields to bring you my best ideas, tips, tools and skills, plus book and movie reviews, and musings to help you be your genuine self, find your own voice, and have a happy and healthy relationship. Don't be surprised to hear about brain research and business skills, self-soothing techniques from all walks of life, suggestions and experiments, and anything that lights my passion for couples. (Author and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Calif. Lic # MFC 45204.) (Hide)
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Is Watching Porn Considered to be Cheating?
Jan 21, 2022 7:01 am
Comments: 11 | Views: 7,475
The answer actually is: it depends.
If you and your partner have discussed it and agreed that watching porn is okay, then watching porn is not cheating—with... More
Jan 21, 2022 7:01 am
Comments: 11 | Views: 7,475
The answer actually is: it depends.
If you and your partner have discussed it and agreed that watching porn is okay, then watching porn is not cheating—with... More
Dating/Dating Profile: Say What You Are Looking For
Jan 14, 2022 9:33 am
Comments: 0 | Views: 5,377
I absolutely recommend that a person put in their dating profile what they’re looking for. Explicit, caring communication is the foundation for long-lasting,... More
Jan 14, 2022 9:33 am
Comments: 0 | Views: 5,377
I absolutely recommend that a person put in their dating profile what they’re looking for. Explicit, caring communication is the foundation for long-lasting,... More
Chores, Who Does What, and How to Prevent Fights About Them
Jan 7, 2022 9:51 am
Comments: 0 | Views: 5,521
The start of a new year, with Covid still on the rampage resulting in continued extra home time, seems a good time to figure out how to handle chores, not be resentful,... More
Jan 7, 2022 9:51 am
Comments: 0 | Views: 5,521
The start of a new year, with Covid still on the rampage resulting in continued extra home time, seems a good time to figure out how to handle chores, not be resentful,... More
Tips for Couples Working from Home
Dec 31, 2021 10:54 am
Comments: 3 | Views: 7,064
Here are a few reasons it’s challenging to work at home with your significant other at home:
1. Your partner is busy with work 8-10 hours a day, even though... More
Dec 31, 2021 10:54 am
Comments: 3 | Views: 7,064
Here are a few reasons it’s challenging to work at home with your significant other at home:
1. Your partner is busy with work 8-10 hours a day, even though... More
Grief and the Holidays
Dec 17, 2021 9:24 am
Comments: 6 | Views: 9,174
Editor's Note: I originally posted this in 2013. Due to the 73,000 people who have read it, I think it's worth sharing again, especially after over 5.34 million... More
Dec 17, 2021 9:24 am
Comments: 6 | Views: 9,174
Editor's Note: I originally posted this in 2013. Due to the 73,000 people who have read it, I think it's worth sharing again, especially after over 5.34 million... More
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