Seeking Shelter for Our Kids
Original post made by Lucy F. on Feb 15, 2007
Ambitious parents with several Ph.D.'s don't necessarily shelter their children any better than a less educated family, reminds Pipher.
The college-entrance frenzy is an example: "Ivy League has become a joke," says Pipher. "It's about brand-name recognition and marketing. It has nothing to do with thinking college through. It isn't a result of that kind of discussion."
She says parents should stop the nonsense early and talk to their kids by 8th grade. She role-plays what parents might say: "I know all your friends want to go to Harvard, but let's talk about the financial impact on our family if you go there, how much mom and dad would have to work and be away from home, how much pressure you will be under, what it will do to your friendships, your time to just read a book for fun."
What is your take on what Pipher has to say? What can our community do about it?
on Feb 15, 2007 at 6:11 pm
The best thing you can do to shelter your child in Palo Alto is to relax and enjoy elementary school and after that enroll your child in a private school.
on Feb 16, 2007 at 7:52 am
Wiser Now, I'm curious about your comment. Have you found a private school to be less stressful for your children? The kids I know who are enrolled in local private high schools seems as stressed (if not more) as those in the public high schools. I would like to hear your own experience.
on Feb 16, 2007 at 9:57 am
Let's face it, many people are generally very self-centered, self-interested, and won't take reasonable advice (or give it to their children).
The main thing I'd like to see is each child looked at as an individual by his/her parents rather than the parents instituting a "Grand Plan" for the child for competitive reasons (end goal: prestigious college admission) at an early age. I am doing my best to treat my children as individuals, and I'm proud of that.