We now have two tutoring services in midtown. I believe that the evidence from some of the recent threads, plus these two very busy tutoring services, that we are going overboard in preparing our kids for high stress levels in high school, if not younger. At the back to school night at Paly last fall, many teachers mentioned that they had a list of tutors if any parent wanted them. I assumed that this was for those who needed remedial help. I have since learned that in fact these tutors are for those who want to get further ahead of the class and get their grades and scores up to perfect levels easily. I also know from a friend of mine who is an ex-elementary teacher who does tutoring, that she is finding the same thing. She gets many students whose parents spend their kids after school hours getting classes for them instead of letting them pursue their own interests, just to get ahead. This is even down in the preschool level. These kids are dropped off with her, not by parents themselves, but by carpools, or taxi services, and they are expected to study for a couple of hours before being picked up to go elsewhere, often to something like music lessons rather than sports or other activities. They then have to do rigorous music practice as well as homework with the parents at home. What are we doing? Is this the norm? What will these kids be like as adults? Is this something that I am the only one observing, or are there others?
Are the school counsellors aware of this, and is there something that can be done to give our kids a normal childhood? My kids are bright, but I want their free time to be free for their own activities and down time. I do want them to do well in school, but when these highly motivated kids are becoming the norm, it is making my kids look bad. Is there any sense to this or am I over concerned.