How to express support for Newtown families
Original post made on Dec 19, 2012
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on Dec 19, 2012 at 8:12 am
From the Huffington Post. The headline is "Residents...Want Journalists to Leave Town"
"'Please tell them to just ease up,' Teri Brunelli, a Newtown store owner, told reporter Adrienne LaFrance. 'It happened and we're going through it. Just let it be for now.'
The BBC's Jonny Dymond reported being told, 'Go home, please, go home, all of you," by a man who said that he knew four or five of the families who lost children.'"
I have to assume that goes for condolence letters from strangers as well.
on Dec 19, 2012 at 8:57 am
RW - I don't see the connection you are making between condolence letters and heavy media presence. I fully agree that the media should leave that town and let the community grieve in private. (I cringe when I see reporters standing on street corners, loudly giving facts about the gunman to the camera, while residents (some children) are walking by). However condolence letters are quiet, non-intrusive ways of letting those folks know that people care. I would think (hope at least) that the letters are screened before they are passed on to the families too. After that, the families can do what they like with them. They can perhaps let the letters sit in a pile and open them at a later time, on their terms.
on Dec 19, 2012 at 10:52 am
I am from Newtown and still have family and friends there or very close by. I have spoken with quite a few people over there the last few days. I do not know anyone with kids who were killed. But I am only a couple steps removed and have heard some personal stories that would make most grown men break down in tears.
I have heard that the press has taken over the town. It is harder to find a parking space, reporters keep coming up to people to ask them to talk, etc. I think it is time for the press to back off. But of course they are just doing their job...They are providing what their viewers want. Two different reporters spoke with me yesterday here in Palo Alto (apparently there aren't many people from little Newtown in this area). They were very respectful. But I know it could be much different for someone who had family at the school on Friday.
As for personal letters, I think this is very different. Someone could set aside a letter to read when they are ready. It's not "in their face" the way the reporters can be. I would say send them if you feel the urge. It is at times like this that we should all extend the idea of "neighbor" past your town's border.
That being said, have you reached out to your own neighbor recently? Perhaps that is a good place to start. Be aware of what is going on with your neighbors so you know when something out of the ordinary might be cause for concern. And if you care about increasing security at schools, maybe start with the ones closest to you...Tell them you feel it could be good to hire someone to patrol (doesn't need to be an armed guard or police)? And of course if you have kids, check in with them regularly to see how they are feeling and if there is anything we can do to help.