A few months ago my co-worker told me that his daughter had decided to get married. Both he and his wife are really excited about this. Later on we asked him about the wedding plans and he said that the bride and the groom had decide to have a court house wedding and had asked the parents to put $ down towards the down payment of their new house; rather than spending the $ on wedding festivities. There is no wedding registry and no reception - any family and friends who want to give a gift was asked to go the same route. Parent's were not expected to empty their savings into this fund - but just to give whatever amount they were planning on spending.
Going by the bay area prices, my co-worker thinks that this is a very wise decision. However, his wife, who had been looking forward to a modest wedding, is disappointed to some extent, though she sees reason behind the decision.
Personally, I thought this was a very sane decision! I have been to weddings in Saratoga hills; Monterey Bay - where the wedding must have cost $50K at least, if not more ! Yes, all of us had a good time, we all admired the flower decorations, the food and other such things. However two weeks down the line, the memory was for a 'fancy party' and nothing more.
Every bride wants this day to be special and wants it to be memorable. The wedding industry is huge and I am sure they are not going to support such radical thinkers :)
We spent $1000 on our wedding - we got married and had lunch with friends and family at a good restaurant (yes, and my friends called me cheap! - we couldn't afford a major festivity; we didn't want our parents to spend their savings on this)
What do you think? Is it worth spending spending so much on a single festivity? If yes - why; if no - why ?