I am disturbed to hear that some school systems may farm out their sex education needs to evangelical churches. Coming from my own strict religious background, I can say that having an “only if you’re married” or abstinence rule was never an effective approach for me as a teen. In addition, sexual messages tied to moral imperatives only distanced me from my family and church. I did find a church, though, that has a very balanced approach to sexuality education. The Unitarian Universalist Church has developed a curriculum called “Our Whole Lives” (OWL). As a parent, I am reassured knowing that this program offers a comprehensive discussion of sexuality, self-esteem, emotional and physical health, and responsibility. As an OWL teacher, I can see how this realistic message helps young people make smart lifelong sexual choices. In an increasingly complex world, our children don’t need their most intimate decisions outsourced to organizations with a single solution.