PA 3rd grade teacher hosting teen party
Original post made
by Incredulous Paly Parent, Palo Alto High School,
on Oct 30, 2006
I am dumbfounded that a Palo Alto elementary school teacher and her husband would allow alcohol to be served to Paly students at their home and then allow them to get wasted. After all this community has gone through with teen drinking, including a recent death of a Gunn student, I am livid that this has happened. THANK YOU to the Palo Alto Police for not only breaking this party up but for citing the parents. Now what can/will the school district do? And please don't tell me that teens drinking under supervision is a proper way to manage teen drinking. This party proves that to be a fallacy, if the police report is anywhere near accurate.
Posted by TheVoiceOfReason
a resident of Stanford
on Nov 2, 2006 at 1:54 am
The Art of Motherhood
Penny from Professorville, I would like to address your comment. First, I would like to commend you for your brilliant description of your frantic searches for your teenage children. You seem to have mastered the art of infiltrating a social gathering and leaving with your target firmly contained. May I suggest a future career on the Palo Alto S.W.A.T team? Plainly put, your statement makes me sick to my stomach. Your claim that you would hastily remove your child, "If it looked like the party could get out of control, or if any alcohol was present" demonstrates your despicable lack of trust in your offspring.
You claim this method is "very effective." I would like to ask, "Very effective in achieving what?" You are sheltering your child from the world that surrounds him. Simply because there is alcohol present, does not mean your child is going to drink it excessively, let alone touch it all. Parents place vegetables on the dinner table each night, yet for some reason, that gosh darn spinach seems to remain untouched. What are you trying to achieve through the removal of your child?
Chill Everyone brings up a good point. Are you going to behave in this manner for the rest of your child's life? When is he/she of age to make his own decisions? As I am writing, I am imagining your child's wedding day. There he/she is, looking absolutely dashing in wedding attire, glass of champagne in hand. Your child toasts the crowd and raises the glass to his/her lips. (cough cough…Penny, that is your cue) In one swift motion, you dive across the table (may I point your astonishing resemblance to the great Brian Urlacher of the Chicago Bears), and tackle your child to the ground. You then presume to wrestle the glass of alcohol from your child's hand, and because it is such an "effective" method, you drag your child out of the room and into your car that is waiting outside. Wow, I can just see your child, 50 years later, sitting on a rocking chair (NO glass of scotch in hand of course), telling his/her grandchildren about that eventful wedding day.
To be fair, being the incredible mother that you are, you most likely would have avoided this embarrassing ordeal in the first place. Why is that? Well, you would have thoroughly searched the reception room beforehand and noticed the chilled bottles of Dom Perignon awaiting the celebration. Upon first sight of this substance, you would have quickly ushered your child away. You may feel you are doing your children a favor by sheltering them from the real world, but as Coach Boone said in Remember the Titans, "You are crippling them; You are crippling them for life."
You have criticized parents who allow their children to drink as having "grey moral boundaries." Penny, I question the morality of your actions. You claim, "I would rather that my child was unpopular but understand my values and valued her life and future." Penny, you have gone far beyond instilling an understanding of values in your child. When I think of a child building an understanding of his/her parent's values, I think of a family meeting, in which an idea such as drinking is discussed. It is your right; in fact, it is your duty as a parent to teach your child about the dangers of alcohol and the effects that it can have on a human. Yet rushing into a house, grabbing hold of your child, and taking him/her away because of the presence of alcohol is NOT an example of helping your child build a simple "understanding" of your values. Rather, it is an example of a lunatic mother forcefully and detrimentally compelling her child to adopt her OWN views and values.
Since when does a child's set of values have to be a carbon copy of his mother's? Penny, if all mothers raised their children the way you do, the entire nation would embrace a set of values similar to those of their ancestors. While this may seem ideal in your model of "utopian motherhood," I would claim that the great social innovators (figures such as Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandella , and Susan B. Anthony) had values that differed from those of their ancestors. What I am getting at is this Penny: If all mothers raised their children the way you have chosen to raise yours, the drinking fountains at Walter Hayes would be segregated, Terman Middle School Students would be studying the current apartheid in South Africa, and you, being a woman, would be without a vote in the upcoming election. You see Penny, forcing a child to adopt a set of values leads to one thing, stagnation. As Frank Zappa once said, "Without deviation, progress is not possible."
There is nothing like sitting in front of a computer at two in the morning, listening to the rain gently fall outside my window, while sipping a warm cup of tea and laughing hysterically at the outrageous comments made in this forum. Who knew a sober night could be so entertaining? Penny, for this I am forever indebted to you.