22-30+ year old kids living with Mommy and Daddy in Palo Alto Palo Alto Issues, posted by James, a resident of the Midtown neighborhood, on Aug 1, 2012 at 1:59 pm
When local parents allow their kids to live with them, well after their education is complete (or should be completed), they are contributing to a malaise and a spiraling down of their kids' individual spirits. Trust fund babies are pretty thick in Palo Alto, pathetic kids, but now it is spreading to the middle class. When does the eaglet get kicked out of the eagles nest? There is a big world out there, and young people should face the challenge of it.
Is this current trend a result of the 'self-esteem' movement? Is it child abuse by Mommy and Daddy (especially Mommy)?
Posted by Outside Observer, a resident of another community, on Aug 1, 2012 at 9:32 pm
Multi-generational households are common in many Asian cultures, yet their children are not failures.
Granted, this is not the "norm" for American culture, but it is just another indication of the decline of America. A decline that is also exemplified by the 7-figure Eichler houses in Palo Alto. Originally built as the cheapest post-war housing for blue collar workers, they can only be afforded by the top 1/10 of a percent now.
Posted by palo alto mom, a resident of the Downtown North neighborhood, on Aug 1, 2012 at 10:12 pm
James - my kids are younger, but both of my nephews moved home for a bit after college, got jobs, contributed to the household, did chores and saved some money. They moved out on their own and have been self sufficient since. They enjoyed the time with their parents and appreciated them.
Posted by WhereTheSunShines, a resident of the Greendell/Walnut Grove neighborhood, on Aug 2, 2012 at 8:41 am
James, Life is short, Any time we all have to spend with our loved ones is precious. All other countries excel in strong family bonds due to living with each other for long periods of time. Family are the only ones you can rely on during the good and the bad. Sorry, your family life or lack of experience with children has left you bitter.
Posted by James, a resident of the Midtown neighborhood, on Aug 2, 2012 at 10:40 am
Denial is a convenient tool for those who refuse to look at facts. Adult children, allowed to live at home, slowly become emotionally over-dependent on the nest. They are not challenged to face the big world. Such kids are piling up, in Palo Alto, and their parents refuse to help them by kicking them out of the nest.
I told my own two kids that they were on their own, once they finished their education. They both got out of college during the Great Recession. They took service jobs, for low pay, as they continued to look for career jobs. It worked, because they had a good work ethic and demonstrateed it. They brought something special to their job interviews. Both of them are now on career tracks in major corporations. My son gets emails from his old friends, most of whom live at home with Mommy and Daddy, wanting to know how to get "in". He just smiles and tells them to leave home, and face the world on their own. I have also had parents call me to give them "direction". I tell them the same thing: Kick them out tomorrow!
Posted by Q for Editors, a resident of Stanford, on Aug 2, 2012 at 11:48 am
Why was the post highlighting "james" and his lack of factual evidence backing up his claims, removed?
I can talk about my neighbor's kids spending a couple years back while interns, then going on to graduate school and now are on their way as consummate Palo Alto professionals, but, big whoop-de-do, it's just another online story.
Hard facts to substantiate an opinion are the coin of the online realm. My son being a doctor does not a credible claim make. A link to a census showing the number of adults "doubling up" in PA homes, does.
Posted by neighbor, a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood, on Aug 2, 2012 at 2:00 pm
How about the PA parents who spoil their teen kids with BMWs? -- then sneer at you when your kids don't have such vehicles.
I have been here long enough to have seen a massive shift towards the "necessity" of such high status, luxury, costly vehicles.
I have experienced such, (as I did not and would never have dreamed of giving my kids BMWs!) and -- regardless of whether such children above move out from home or live at home -- it seems there are a LOT of ways for kids to be spoiled and they and their parents have attitude.