Older men, younger women help everyone Issues Beyond Palo Alto, posted by Editor, Palo Alto Online, on Sep 12, 2007 at 1:21 pm
Older men in relationships with younger women affect the genes that increase human longevity and thus help future generations live longer, researchers at Stanford University and the University of California-Santa Barbara have found.
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Posted by Man over 50, a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood, on Sep 12, 2007 at 3:27 pm
He could take a turn for the worse, but he probably won't - most men are not willing to sacrifice filial loyalty for something as mundane as improving the species. Besides, he'd probably have to go through a divorce - definitely not worth it!
Posted by been there, a resident of the South of Midtown neighborhood, on Sep 12, 2007 at 4:25 pm
Been there done that...trust me, it is fun for the first year or two, then REALLY, REALLY boring as you realize there is no common history, at all, in life's experiences, music, cultural and historical happenings..no shared memory of anything. No common perspective or wisdom. Different needs for rest and rejuvenation, for comedy, different plans for the next 5 years or 10..
I severely regret learning this the hard way, instead of listening to the advice of wiser ones.
Posted by Sperm Bank, a resident of another community, on Sep 13, 2007 at 3:30 pm
Common sense would indicate that a sperm bank donation should do the job. All us old coots could contribute to humanity, without having to deal with a 20-35 young woman (and vice versa). If her husband can't do the job, at least she has a proven source!
Posted by Man over 50, a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood, on Sep 13, 2007 at 5:04 pm
Well, they tried, didn't they. :) maybe they were just funnin', after all?
Besides, they were just addressing the inheritance of longevity.
What worries me is that there has actually been developmental zygotes created from nothing more than DNA from two human female eggs. The implications of that is that men may not be necessary in the future.
Posted by Been there, a resident of the South of Midtown neighborhood, on Sep 14, 2007 at 7:42 am
The research referred to men older than 55..my assumption was that they then had children with women of good childbearing age, or much younger than 15 years younger..like 25 years younger, since the women would be no older than their early 30s.
That is the mistake I made..nearly destroying my life to be with someone 25 years younger... That is different from 10-15 years younger. 40 and 55 still have a bit more in common, though there is still a little disconnect..
Posted by hmm, a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood, on Sep 14, 2007 at 1:32 pm
We have a single male friend, approaching 50, who has enjoyed life filling it with career, sport, travel and so on. He has had many girlfriends, at least one live in, and is now talking about finding the right woman to marry and start a family with.
Rather than this having anything to do with longevity, we think of it as immaturity and selfishness, although he is a really nice guy. He is obviously allowed his opinion and to do what he feels is right for his life, but it is interesting nonetheless that this may fit in with this research.
Posted by Steve, a resident of another community, on Sep 18, 2007 at 11:25 pm
Hi everyone, iam Steve age 55. I just married a girl from the Philippines. She is 18 years old and iam willing to do my part part to prolong life in the future. Anyway it goes I will be a much happier person.
Posted by Young Wife, a resident of another community, on Sep 19, 2007 at 8:30 am
My husband is 20 years older than me. We just had our first baby 5 months ago and are looking forward to more. We are happy, in love and enjoying each other everyday. To "been there" who claimed there were no common interests between you and your older spouse- that has nothing to do with age! If you marry someone your same age with different interest don't you think the same thing would happen? His age wasn't the problem, perhaps it was your immaturity.
Posted by Been there, a resident of the Midtown neighborhood, on Sep 19, 2007 at 2:40 pm
No, I am the older one..not the younger.
A lack of common history can not be overcome with a 25 year difference. The excitement of "being young" again is great for awhile, but reality does set in.
I wish you both the best of luck when he is 65 and ready to relax and retire and settle down a bit, looking old and weary and people keep mistaking him for your father...and you are ready to live the next, active chapter in your life, travel, go back to work, start a foundation, be gone a lot.. after your child moves on. You CAN do it, but it takes a LOT of understanding and acceptance of each of you being "not together a lot" and "not with the same goals". NOT being negative, just telling some reality of the future.
Nothing wrong with it at all. But it certainly not as easy as having similar age and being in a similar point in life, that is all.
Again, many good wishes and best of luck. It CAN work, just much more difficult.
Posted by sabawa, a resident of Los Altos Hills, on Sep 23, 2007 at 9:14 pm
So my ex married a woman 23 younger than he and 20 yrs younger than me......which, of course, made me feel old overnight. She didn't care about having kids at the time as he'd had a vasectomy. After she turned 33, she changed her mind. However, even with his reversal surgery, no kids are forthcoming. Does this happen often in those yw/om relationships?
Posted by Jeff, a resident of the Fairmeadow neighborhood, on Oct 2, 2007 at 12:20 am
The results of this research is just a great news to me. I just married a 15 years younger lady, we met at agelessfriends.com , where age gap relationships are celebrated and great many people are looking for age gap relationships there. This study results just increase my confidence for future marriage life.
Posted by Unknown, a resident of Los Altos Hills, on Oct 24, 2007 at 11:15 am
Am the young one--15 yrs younger than my boyfriend, we are happy but I'm not going to lie -- yes sometimes age difference can play a role in relationships, I have fallen in love, my partner and I have many things in common despite the age difference. It can work out but you have to be mature about it and understand each other's need, define what you are looking for and what you really want b/c the person at the other end who is older probably wants to settle down and you may not be ready to talk about marriage and kids.
I am totally and hopelessly in love with a 17 year old woman named Jill . I am 47, I am married with one child still in the home and two out of the home and have been married for the last going on 23 years to the same woman. This whole concepts blows my mind, Am I losing my mind? I have never loved someone like I love Jill . We met by chance and instantly fell head over heels in love. It is legal in this state for consensual sex at 17 but I want to wait before throwing my marriage out the window. She is not even an American Citizen she will be here for another 10 months then she goes back home.We spend time together almost every day and have for 6 months, there is no way in hell this relationship is going to work since she still has 11 years of School left when she gets home, The last thing I would ever do is hurt her in any way! I don't even think of her in a sexual way, I just am so in love with her and she told me she is totally in love with me.
I know that true love doesn't come everyday..what should I do? Walk away or let it build?
Posted by R. Don Steele, a resident of the Old Palo Alto neighborhood, on Nov 4, 2007 at 6:28 pm
I wrote the BIBLE on this topic in 1987. I am 67, Joanna is 33. Google her at you tube Joanna Bardot Lopez and R. Don Steele discuss the study. It's simple:
When men keep reproducing after age 55, natural selection fights life-shortening genetic mutations, passing that trait on. In other words men who are strong enough to find, meet, talk, date and reproduce with YOUNG women have the BEST genes for LONG LIFE. Women don't like this FACT of evolution. They believe what the Feminists told them, that they are the same as men! Silly girls! Web Link
Posted by Bob Dominguez, a resident of the Old Palo Alto neighborhood, on Dec 17, 2007 at 9:45 pm
Gee! I'm easy to get along with...I love to cook, clean house, stay in shape, walk,and pray daily...stay with nature, music, art, history and good reading. I'm a spirited person and attend church services every sunday. I love old movies and old music...espicially jazz! I am a retired educator, musician,businessman...I feel very virle and willing to share my lasting years with an energetic lady that plays golf, loves to cuddle and enjoy my cooking or a night out to dinner!!!