| Published: February 4, 2004
by Gretchen Roberts
many aspects of weddings will never change, from something borrowed
to something blue, certain trends do come and go. Two years ago
Madonna's wedding was all the rage; last year destination weddings
were in. The Weekly talked to area wedding planners to find out
what's hot this year.
dresses in '40s Hollywood-glamour style, as well as style from the '50s with
lace bodices, are popular. I'm also seeing a lot of sleeveless and strapless
gowns," she said. Popular wedding colors this year pay homage to the runway
in purples and Tiffany blue, she added.
And speaking of colors, don't forget to dye that martini: Your caterer can
create a specialty drink for the reception that reflects the wedding's color
It's not a theme park
Couples are integrating their own hobbies and interests into wedding plans.
One couple Hodges consulted for were both scientists, highly educated and book
They had their cake designed to look like books, and even wrote some of their
favorite titles on the spines. Another couple didn't want a formal ceremony
at all, so they were married privately and then threw a celebration with cocktails
and a scavenger hunt designed to encourage guests to get to know each other.
Monograms, which reflect the new couple's initials, are popping
up everywhere in weddings, especially on the cake. "It's piped on in beautiful script," Sorenson
What's a wedding without a dance? "A better wedding," some
brides and grooms would answer. Hodges estimates at least a quarter
of her clients
of the traditional wedding dance, wanting to avoid the spotlight,
and instead hire a jazz quartet or a deejay to play background
And finally, couples want to be comfortable. Many are choosing to wed in the
comfort of their own home, which is very personal and flexible, Sorenson said.
Less formal attire for men, in the form of dark suits rather than the traditional
tuxedo, is also becoming popular.
Weddings are about family
Many couples have relatives out of state, and they want to show their families
what California has to offer. They're getting married in fun spots, like mansions,
beaches and Napa Valley wineries. The wine country is an especially popular
destination wedding spot.
But Bay Area couples also realize the destination is in their
lot of people have said to me, 'My family is from a different state, and I want
them to come here and see why we love California so much,'" Hodges
Often the wedding and reception are held in the same location for the guests'
convenience. Couples are taking more care to make sure their guests are comfortable,
from blocking off hotel rooms to providing transportation to the ceremony.
And receiving lines are out. "More people want to go table to table at the
reception and thank guests individually," Hodges said. "Thanking
guests at each table and doing a toast is an Asian custom we've
adopted that's so much
At the reception, long, rectangular family-style tables and a
family-style menu are popular. With food on large plates being
the table, guests
mingle more. "It's sort of an Italian or Tuscan theme," Hodges said. "It's
more like the joining of two families."
Perhaps most importantly, brides and grooms are planning together. In years past, the bride and her mother did the majority of the wedding planning and decision-making, but now the groom is much more involved. Hodges said the couple is looking at the whole picture differently. "Grooms want to do their part from the beginning. They're looking at the wedding as the beginning of their relationship as partners."