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Uploaded: Tuesday, October 20, 2009, 4:35 PM
Homicide victim reported that suspect had history of anger
Zumot faced domestic violence charges before his girlfriend's body was discovered
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by Gennady Sheyner
Palo Alto Online Staff
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| Bulos "Paul" Zumot, the owner of a downtown Palo Alto hookah bar who was arrested Monday night for allegedly killing 29-year-old Jennifer Schipsi and setting their Addison Avenue cottage on fire, had faced charges for threatening and harassing Schipsi more than a year before her death, court records show.
According to statements made by Schipsi as part of her application for a restraining order last year, the two started dating in October 2007 but split up in February 2008 after Schipsi noticed signs of "extreme anger and controlling characteristics" in Zumot.
In early February, Schipsi discussed her domestic situation and the pros and cons of the various criminal protective orders with a crisis-intervention advocate from the San Jose-based organization, Next Door Solutions to Domestic Violence. According to a statement from the organization to the court, the topics discussed also included "safety planning" and "resources and referrals."
The following day, Schipsi told Zumot that they needed to split up. In her application for a restraining order, she said Zumot became "extremely angry." He allegedly walked into his bedroom, gathered her belongings and began to throw them at her.
As Schipsi gathered these objects and headed toward the door, Zumot allegedly grabbed her arm and held on while screaming profanities into her ear. Schipsi reported that he then let her go and followed her out the door. As she entered her vehicle, he allegedly kicked the front grill and front door of her vehicle, causing more than $1,300 in damages.
In the following weeks, Zumot persistently called, e-mailed and sent text messages to Schipsi, apologizing and saying that he would have the damage on her car repaired, Schipsi's application states. She ultimately decided to see him again.
"He somehow convinced me that his reactions were not part of his character," Schipsi reported in her application. "He seemed sincere and said he would seek counseling and anything he could do to prevent this from happening.
"Giving him the benefit of the doubt, I began seeing him for dinner a few times per week and the anger and verbal abuse started up again."
On March 13, Schipsi tried once again to break up with Zumot and asked him not to call her again. That night, he sent her 10 text messages and called her 21 times.
The following day, Schipsi and Zumot had a heated confrontation near a Starbucks at Santana Row in San Jose, where Schipsi lived before moving to Addison Avenue a little over a month ago. He allegedly followed Schipsi to her car and, as she was about to get inside, called her foul names and spit in her face. Schipsi wrote in her application for a restraining order that he spit in her face so much that she had to go home and shower again, forcing her to be late for work.
The next day, Zumot allegedly sent Schipsi 88 text messages, putting her down. She responded asking him to stop contacting her and saying she would get a restraining order against him. He replied, "Don't threaten me."
According to Schipsi's application, the calls and text messages from Zumot kept flooding in. "ur a cancer and u know it," he allegedly said in a March 14 text message. An hour later, he sent her another message, "I have 2 get u out of my life @ any price." But three days later, he sent her two text messages, "I love u. And Iam gonna win u back @ any price" and "I cant take it any more. Im gonna stop by ur place."
By March 15, she reported receiving more than 200 calls and messages. Sometimes he threatened to spread false rumors about her and called her names; at other times he told her he loved her and would have her back "at any cost." On March 17, he e-mailed her a message, "Mark my words, you will be my wife someday."
On that same day, she was filing a police report when Zumot called and sent her a text message. A police officer picked up the phone and told Zumot he must stop bothering Schipsi, according to the police report.
Throughout February and early March, Zumot allegedly sent Schipsi messages that she said went "from one extreme to the next" and made her feel unsafe. In her application, she wrote, "I need this man to leave me alone."
"I have not been responding to him and it's not helping," Schipsi reported. "He knows my schedule and it is easy for him to find me.
"I have been staying at a friend's house the past few nights. I am afraid for my safety and need help."
The officer with whom Schipsi spoke reported that she "appeared scared." The police report noted that she "fears Zumot will harm her due to numerous messages he has sent her since they broke up."
In May, Schipsi again went to the police to report that Zumot violated his protective order. He faced a misdemeanor domestic-violence charge for "the crime of obscene language or threat to injure, by telephone and by means of an "electronic communication device," according to the arrest warrant.
According to a police report based on Schipsi's statement, Zumot continued to call her from blocked numbers. Schipsi usually didn't answer. In one case, she picked up the phone and heard him say, "Do you know who you are talking to right now?" She told him that if he had something to say, he could say it on June 9, when they were due in court. He replied, "You will not make it to see me on the 9th" -- a statement she interpreted as a threat.
Schipsi left her home and spent the next few days with family or friends, according to the police report.
But by October 2008, they were back together. Schipsi asked the court to reduce his restraining order to "peaceful conduct" and to remove the "stay-away provision." In her request, Schipsi wrote that Zumot "has not been a threat to me since the restraining order was issued."
She also said that the person who was calling and threatening her was "a neighbor of mine who has since been arrested for assaulting me."
At the time of his arrest, Zumot was scheduled to appear in court on Dec. 8 on charges of violating his restraining order in March 2008.
In early September 2009, the couple moved to 969 Addison Ave., a cottage on a quiet block between Channing and Fife avenues. Their landlord, John Eckland, whose house is to the rear of the property, said they were a private couple but did nothing to arouse suspicion.
Eckland told the Weekly he hadn't seen Schipsi or her vehicle over the four days leading up to the Oct. 15 fire. Schipsi's burned body was found in the bedroom shortly after the fire was extinguished.
Sgt. Dan Ryan, Palo Alto police spokesman, said police believe Zumot killed Schipsi in an "act of passion" and then burned the bedroom to hide his crime. Ryan said police concluded that Zumot committed the crime after four days of intense investigation that also included the Santa Clara County Fire Investigation Task Force and the Federal Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms and Explosives.
"Everyone from the chief of police to the lowest beat officer has been working on this over the weekend," Ryan said.
Late Monday afternoon, police searched inside Da Hookah Spot and towed Zumot's vehicle, a silver Range Rover, to the police station garage.
Ryan couldn't comment on when, where or how Schipsi was killed, but said the autopsy report indicated that she died before the fire. He wouldn't say whether Zumot's vehicle was used to transport the victim to Addison Avenue but said the vehicle's involvement in the crime is "not beyond the realm of possibility."
"We're still in the middle of that investigation," Ryan said. "We're looking at several vehicles and we executed several search warrants.
"This is a very active investigation."
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Posted by John, a resident of another community, on Oct 21, 2009 at 1:06 am Sounds like it was a very dysfunctional relationship. No disrespect to the victim or the family and this may not be the right time to bring up this question, but I wonder if the boyfriend was doing drugs? I read the mercury news article detailing Jennifer's complaints of "Paul" and it sounds like he was trying to control her, but obviously there was a lot of back and forth there between them that family and friends (including domestic services) could not resolve between them. For whatever reason she obviously moved in wiht him within the last month in Palo Alto, so, being a guy, being non-emotional "so to speak" I can only guess that the relationship was extremely unhealthy. So, going forward, what should a girl do in that situation? It is very hard to make judgments or cast aspertions on people, but the bottom line is, if this guy is guilty, the "system" failed her, that's really sad and horrible. Our communities these days, well, we are so into material things and material answers, we forget to see the forest through the trees...and this poor girl cried out for help. This "guy" had a business and was supposedly successful. So, is this the old story or what???
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Posted by AS IF, a resident of another community, on Oct 21, 2009 at 2:44 am Our system is so screwed up that they wait for someone to kill another before they put him behind bars , and after they put him behind bars , he is out agian on bail. and during this time he is either commiting more crime or finding a way to escape out of this country. does our system really work?? is it really fair ?? do you blame the girl? the friends?? the family??? after all this is a free country right???? WELL nothing that was done had really saved this poor girl from a sick twisted minded individual that has no regard for human life in general... why would someone with this long history of going back and forth between courts / domestic violence and other lawsuits be allowed to excersie his freedom. shouldnt he have been in jail long time ago????
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Posted by Clamp Down, a resident of the Fairmeadow neighborhood, on Oct 21, 2009 at 8:59 am Time to clamp down on abusers. Women cannot change them.
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Posted by Bad People, a resident of the University South neighborhood, on Oct 21, 2009 at 1:29 pm Guys, WOMEN ARE NOT PROPERTY! For being as civilized as we're supposed to be, we aren't doing very well...
And women, I agree that the vast majority of these guys don't change. Stats don't lie. Get away from them early and stay away - there are a lot of other great people out there!
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Posted by stretch, a resident of another community, on Oct 21, 2009 at 1:46 pm It's not the police dept.'s fault that she decided to go back to this monster and move in with him after knowing what he could do! I always wondered why women keep forgiving this type of behavior. If a man hit me ot spit in my face, that would be the last he ever saw of me. It's sad that Jennifer kept going back for more, even sadder that she died because of it.
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Posted by Outraged, a resident of the Professorville neighborhood, on Oct 21, 2009 at 2:07 pm Stretch, you are absolutely right!
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Posted by In Her Shoes, a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood, on Oct 21, 2009 at 2:22 pm People, I am in my 40s, old enough to have realized that we cannot judge unless we are in other's shoes. I have been in enough situations which I have thought "I would never, I can't believe she, why can't she, how could that happen?" And then it happens to me and I completely understand it. I used to say I would never take a hit from a guy and then it happened and I stayed with him and it continued but few and far between. Eventually, we parted due to other circumstances. I used to wonder why people couldn't keep their houses clean even though the kids are gone to school all day. Now I know. There are plenty of ways to waste time these days.
Abusive men also can have a very charming side to them and the victim can easily rationalize it off. Until it happens to you, you will never know how you will react to any given circumstance. You can guess, but the reality could be different.
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Posted by So sad for that beautiful young girl, a resident of Menlo Park, on Oct 21, 2009 at 2:27 pm Poor girl... yes, I know this scenario, and luckily was saved. I called the cops at the first violence and he couldn't believe I'd betray him. And YES drugs were involved! my abuser was on drugs, and used them as the excuse for his bad behavior... it's not my fault defense. It is ALL about control. Zumot's obviously a master manipulator, if he was able to promise the world to her and get her back. She obviously wanted to believe the best in him...and saw all the passion she evoked in him as true love.
I'm afraid this has been around forever. I'm sorry that she paid the ultimate price, and I'm especially sorry for her family. They now probably wonder what they could've done differently. I wonder if they should equip an abused girl with some kind of a panic device which she could use? A beeper for a few years? Just wondering... I sure hope Zumot pays for this and is taken off the streets so he can NEVER do this to another woman.
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Posted by emme, a resident of Menlo Park, on Oct 21, 2009 at 3:24 pm [Post removed by Palo Alto Online staff.]
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Posted by Maria, a resident of the Downtown North neighborhood, on Oct 21, 2009 at 4:20 pm The best thing parents can do is for partents to bring up daughters to believe that the self is the most important thing that matter the most.
We see time and time again females who care more about others (especially men) than themselves. Parents must instill a sense of self-worth and strength in daughters so that they are never victims of abusive relationships.
Unfortunately, creeps like this man will aways exist.
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Posted by In Her Shoes, a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood, on Oct 21, 2009 at 4:20 pm Many women with high self-esteem put up with it; you just don't hear about it because it's too embarassing to admit. Ask the local womens shelter for their stats, although those are still skewed because a lot of it is going unreported.
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Posted by stretch, a resident of another community, on Oct 21, 2009 at 4:41 pm [Post removed by Palo Alto Online staff.]
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Posted by stretch, a resident of another community, on Oct 21, 2009 at 4:44 pm And, Cannabis:
I think we're talking tobacco here, not marijuana. Ever been to Turkey? They smoke tobacco in hookahs. sheesh
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Posted by In Her Shoes, a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood, on Oct 21, 2009 at 5:00 pm Stretch,
Your know-it-all attitude and rude postings are irritating.
Let me enlighten you: women with great self-esteem still put up with verbal/physical abuse and DO NOT necessarily feel they deserve it. I have known men who are famous in their careers who are abusive. The women stay with them because of all the perks of being their wife, NOT because they have low self-esteem. It is a conscious choice to stay with them - put up with it or leave. They decide that they would rather put up with it and lead the life of luxury and fame.
And let me enlighten you further - MEN are abused too - it's not limited to women, especially with all the overly aggressive women these days. Men being abused is certainly under-reported.
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Posted by One more weakened woman, a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood, on Oct 21, 2009 at 7:21 pm Wow... as a woman who has tolerated serious emotional abuse for the past few years and has struggled with becoming strong enough to step away for good. This story hit home too painfully hard.
I am blown away by the similar descriptions to my experience; I am and have been scared for my own safety; and I am also appalled by the nasty judgmental comments here.
Guess if you have not lived it from the inside you do not know what it is about. Nor why the heart leads us to return to a love that makes good sense most of the time.
It is not the hatred nor violence that feels right to us. It is the affection and love that is present the other half of the time; regardless of the pain of abuse we are forever hopeful someone can grow out of being cruel, or learn how to not be that awful.
I have witnessed a similar flippy personality in my partner; he is a brilliant affectionate man with a troubled mind that is unconscious of its other side; a side void of compassion or an ability to care; unable to be stopped, interrupted, corrected, guided, or deeply receive love.
Due to my partner's flip side; his harmful nature – (that is unable to self correct), there is no learning for him, about this other uncaring side. He can not see it.
Many others do not see this flip side either. Most of the time he is gentle, loving, sensitive, yet unable to deeply care or bond, and when he separates he reverts to mouthing off a barrage of negative judgements and rapid-fire insults.
The article here is a wake up call for all of us if we want to not be a victim of misplaced passion; passion that may go sour and become uncontrollable violent rage, veiled over by a willingness and a dire need to connect.
We all need connection; to be and feel loved, wanted, cared for; perhaps we who suffer this kind of abuse might consider a radical act in protest: Step out now! She didn't – we can!
She could not keep her self safe. We can do more to remain safe; by making a stronger more determined effort to not succumb to relationships that abuses power, or tortures our tender heart.
Lets make a pact to change the world one relationship at a time:
If abusive men could not get laid: they would change; do not stay with abusive lovers!
Lets stop giving ourselves away to men with bad manners. Lets not be victims of abuse.
Lets say "no" in more effective ways.
Let's support each other instead of being abusive here in retaliation.
Breathe. We are humans here. It is an upsetting story. It was out of our control. We do not want it to happen to us...
Lets not take out our own aggression by attacking anyone with words here.
Thank you
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Posted by Ronamir, a resident of another community, on Oct 21, 2009 at 11:42 pm Ronamir is a member (registered user) of Palo Alto Online [Post removed by Palo Alto Online staff.]
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Posted by Hmmm, a resident of East Palo Alto, on Oct 22, 2009 at 10:47 am Hmmm is a member (registered user) of Palo Alto Online I appreciate Ronamir's comments because I am curious about Zomot's past - specifically, prior incidents of harassment, abuse, stalking or mistreatment of friends, acquaintances and women. It's hard to know someone's complete history, so we have to take our time to get to know them, and of course, that means investing emotionally in the relationship. From these articles referring to court documents, Jennifer was subjected to mistreatment just a few months into the relationship, which I interpret as a scary sign.
I wish I could think of consoling words for her loved ones, but I can't, because nothing I can say can ease their bereavement. Losing a loved one to murder is horrifying; I know because I have experienced it. I just hope they know how many are thinking of them, that those of us who didn't even know Jennifer are thinking of her, that we wish heartily this didn't happen.
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