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In-laws to Love, or In-laws from Hell?

Uploaded: Oct 17, 2013
I fell in love today. It was not with my husband (this time). It was with a Macintosh computer. It happened once before; I can barely remember the year: it was a Mac Plus, there were hardly any apps for it. I spent hours with it in my attic apartment on Kipling Street in downtown Palo Alto . . .

Today I was shopping for my MIL; she's 78, technophobic, and I adore her. She's been the mom of my heart for many years and was my career mentor for a good long time, too. For more years than I've been married to her son, in fact.

It's good to have family of choice. We all have family of origin. Having both can be the best.

How do you and your partner handle in-laws? I hope you're united as a couple first; then together you decide everything to do with your in-laws.

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Posted by what?, a resident of Gemello,
on Oct 19, 2013 at 10:45 am

What does any of this mean? The articles on MV-VOICE are old and out dated, not interesting. I will just not read them any more.


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Posted by member1, a resident of another community,
on Feb 25, 2014 at 2:27 am

husband love his wife only for respect of his parents


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Posted by Chandrama Anderson, a Palo Alto Online blogger,
on Feb 25, 2014 at 8:12 am

Chandrama Anderson is a registered user.

Hey Member1, not sure what you mean by this? Overall, sounds like you don't feel loved, or if you're the husband, you don't really love your wife. Either way, ouch! Are there kids in this picture, too? I would suggest you do some work on this because there's not much that's lonelier than being lonely in a marriage. Try reading "Wired for Love" as we all long to be loved, cherished, and respected -- in our own right.


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